hi all!
my LO is just a few days short of 6 months, and isn't sleeping through the night yet. i'm feeling very exhausted and frustrated and would like some help. here's the details...
4.5 hour EASY
3 hour wake time (just transitioned this week, and she does well, but def couldn't go longer)
breastfed (no pump)
solid nap routine, without props, usually sleeps for 1.5 hours, twice a day
falls asleep at bedtime without props
doesn't take a paci
started solids yesterday (but doing BLW, so i don’t think she actually ingested anything)
generally happy during the day, but recently is fussy while i’m cooking supper
so we usually try to have her awake from 7:30 to 7:30, although ideal would be 8:30 to 8:30. however, i can't seem to get her to sleep for more than around four hours at night (although the other day, she did go six!!). so, typical nowadays would be for her to be in bed at 7:30, then i usually DF at 9 and again at 10:30. then she usually wakes up sometime around 1, at which point i can often get her to go back to sleep without eating by shush/pat or by putting her in the bed with us (which needs to stop). sometimes though, she’s really hungry at that time, and i feed her. sometimes she will also wake up around 3. if she does that, she’s usually hungry, but once in a blue moon, will go back to sleep without eating (but only if she’s in the bed with us). then she wakes up around 5, always hungry. the last two days, she’s been waking up at 6 instead, but then staying awake for a full wake time, which is far too early for me. also, that makes for a 6pm bedtime which means she doesn’t eat dinner with us, and that’s not really a viable option.
so common NW times are 1, 3 and 5. she sometimes needs to eat at all three times (like a newborn?!), usually needs to eat at two of them and on wonderful nights, only at one of them. if it’s only at one of them, it’s the 5:00 one.
i’ve tried giving a paci instead of feeding her, but she has never taken one and still doesn’t like them. i’ve also been trying to feed her less each time, but it’s hard to measure. for the last week or so, i’ve been stopping her after the letdown is finished and more recently i’ve been stopping her toward the end of the letdown, but that hasn’t helped yet.
do i just keep trying to feed her less each time?
how do i get her to go back to sleep without putting her in the bed with us? or better yet, how do i get her to put herself back to sleep?
should i be feeding her at shorter intervals during the day so that she’s not so hungry at night? how would that work with EASY? would it be like EAEASY?
what do i do when she wakes up at 6am so that she doesn’t have to go to bed at 6pm? add a CN?
any tips on how to not act like a witch with my husband while this exhausted would be appreciated also...