Horrendous long NW with baby trying to crawl

[*Ali*]

Ah bless him. At least you have a reason for the NWs. Just do what you need to and maybe he will be more settled when he gets better. You don't think you overdid it with the lactulose do you?

[lily_layne]

Sorry to hear he's sick   How was last night?

he's a bit APOP resistant

I thought that was just my DD!  Sometimes life would be easier if she would just let me rock her to sleep.  Out of pure desperation on one of her longest NWs, I put her in bed with me and she took it as an invitation to play

[ZacsMumme]

. You don't think you overdid it with the lactulose do you?

Ha well yes at first I though omg I've given him the runs. But no, he's got a temp too and Z had this about 4-5 days ago

Given he was ill last night was ok. We just fed when he woke because he seemed thirsty all day long and he's loosing his voice. So he crashed at 6 stirred at 40 mins woke at 10,3 up at 6.20 he does seem perkier today but still off.

Given his obsession with crawling yesterday he wouldn't go on his tummy at all. Prob hurt

[*Ali*]

Just thought I would check

I hope he feels better soon. Not bad night.

[ZacsMumme]

DH joked he slept better sick
I'm just tired of feeling like I can't get him sorted YK? I know it's just him but I still feel like a bit of a bad mum.

[*Ali*]

You are not a bad mum at all! Please don't think that. You have a lot to deal with with his reflux and are doing great

[lily_layne]

I'm just tired of feeling like I can't get him sorted YK? I know it's just him but I still feel like a bit of a bad mum.

I often feel like this too and I'm not dealing with reflux and another LO like you are!  You are definitely not a bad mom.  My mantra has become "Every day I'm learning to be an excellent mother" and that reminds to not get so worried and upset at myself after a bad nap or night.  It reminds me that moms aren't born with all of the answers - it takes a long time to learn them.  You are obviously a very loving and caring mother because you work at getting him the sleep he needs (even if it doesn't always go according to plan) rather than giving up and just letting him crash every now and then from sheer exhaustion.

[Erin M]

(((hugs)))) Sara, you are doing great!  And what an amazing wealth of information you're accumulating to help others with

[katie80]

(((Hugs))), Sara, you know I think you're an awesome mother.  It's so hard, but you really are doing great.  Hope T feels better quick and proves to DH that he can sleep better when he's well, too!

[ZacsMumme]

Thanks ladies. I'm just worn down. I kept telling myself (and I know I shouldn't have) that 6 months it would all fall into place. And it's not

T is better now, his voice a bit croaky but his nights have been good, and long as he catches up from being sick. His naps are no longer 1.5 on his own now though and I'm having to extend.

The last two days he has had a very long am (I haven't wanted to wake as he has been ill but were talking 40 min resettle then 2hrs after that) then wouldn't sleep longer than 40 in the pm so OT at BT. But this has then given us long 12 hr nights

Tonight he has to go in the cot awake as his IS has taken a hit. I just hope these ridiculous NW have passed.

[lily_layne]

I'm glad to hear that he's feeling better and that you've been getting some nice, long nights but boo to the short pm nap.  We often get a long am nap and short pm nap here and then OT at BT. 

It's so hard when things don't meet your expectations.  If it helps, I was rereading BWSAYP the other day and Tracy repeats over and over that 6-9 months is a time of inconsistency with lots of short naps for no apparent reason.  I keep repeating that to myself after every short pm nap and at every marathon BT because I also expected things to settle down at 6 months.

Sending ~~~~~no ridiculous NW vibes~~~~~~ your way!

[ZacsMumme]

Thanks for the reminder lily he is so inconsistent but I am learning that if we get a 12 hr nights short naps. If the night is less settled or 10.5-11 he does a solid am nap on his own...it's like he is regulating himself

Z never did long nights but he didn't do silly long NW either. Just a paci plug. Maybe that's why he always napped longer once things were on track. I try not to compare but I find I always do!

Oh and we have crazy weird backward proper crawling and commando crawling forward everywhere now!

Given that he does a solid nap on 3 hrs A after an ok night of he does a great 12 hr one would it make sense to push an extra 15? He never shows tired signs till OT at BT

[lily_layne]

Given that he does a solid nap on 3 hrs A after an ok night of he does a great 12 hr one would it make sense to push an extra 15?

That makes sense to me.  I'm thinking it also might work to leave the am nap at the same time each day (if that makes it easier on you) and he will just naturally sleep a little less if he's had a great night and then with your regular A time hopefully you'd get a good pm nap.  I'm finding with my LO that if I push the morning A too much, the pm nap gets too late and I think that's often why DD short naps in the pm.

[ZacsMumme]

So today naps were not great
WU 6.20 out of cot 6.35 12 hr night but unsettled and long ENW
Nap 9.35-10.55
Nap 1.55-2.50 could not resettle!
Can't do CN they are dismal here so BT will be 6.

[ZacsMumme]

And it's back again. I'm so close to locking myself in the toilet and hiding from it all
It's 11.50 pm and we have had
BT 6 self settled with just a bit of pressure on his bottom.
NW 7.30, 8, every 20/30 mins after that. Then he did a hard poop and since as been AWAKE from 10 ish. He won't let us rock him, hold him in the cot, he tries to settle on his own but won't shut his eyes then every 10/15 mins cries. I'm tearing my Hair out, why won't he sleep!