Moral support please?

[Roseii]

Dd2 is addicted to her dummies, she just adores them beyond anything else!! Problem is she wants to suck on them all.the.time.

We've talked to her about the "dummy fairy" and she's all gung-Ho in theory

We're too wussy to go cold turkey so we're starting with limiting them totally to bedtime, in the cot. So no watching telly/car rides/buggy with them. I thought I might give her a box or something for them and put them on a high shelf in her room...? And we'll need to convince her to surrender them when she wakes in the morning which will be super hard as it's hard enough convincing her to just bring ONE of them downstairs

She is 3 in June btw.

Any support or tips most welcome!!!

[katie80]

No tips, but lots of (((hugs))). G's a thumb sucker and I see myself having a similar battle in time, but no box to put a thumb in. Hoping it settles down once he's done teething.

[creations]

No tips, DS refused a dummy and never sucked his thumb either, so lucky me I don't have to do this one!

But - I remember to this day the first night I ever spent without my dummy.  It was one of those days when I saw something in a shop (a little fluffy rabbit toy) which I adored and asked/nagged at my mum for.  It prob cost next to nothing but I really wanted it and my mum told me I could only have it if I gave up my dummy for it.   I chose the rabbit (I think I had to literally spit out the dummy there and then although that could be a false memory).  That night I asked for my dummy as usual and was reminded that I had made a choice and got the rabbit.  So I took rabbit to bed and the dummy was gone, cold turkey and yet some how my own choice.

Hope it goes smoothly.

[Shiv52]

Wow Charli. Good luck!!!  Watching with baited breathe as rosa loves her dummies too. I've just started limiting in daytime but not totally as the whining drives me nuts. 

[twogirlsmommy]

could you by one of those paintable/decorateable wooden jewelry boxes for a craft store have her decorate it in and call it the special dummy box and that's where they live for now and this way when you are ready for the dummy fairy to come she takes the whole box and leaves something else in its place?

[Roseii]

Thanks girls!
Katie I LOL'd at the thumb in the box!!
Good ideas Creations and Brennasmommy thank you, she has already come up with lots of ideas for things the dummy fairy could bring her And I think she'd like a special box.
Shiv-I know the whining is going to be bad Today was the first day and I think it was a bit of a novelty so she didn't fight putting them up on the shelf. She did cry when we wouldn't let her bring them out in the car and that really broke my heart, I cannot bear it when she is upset it breaks me!! But DH was there so had to stick to my guns

[ZacsMumme]

Wow Charli. Good luck!!!  Watching with baited breathe as rosa loves her dummies too. I've just started limiting in daytime but not totally as the whining drives me nuts. 

^^^ same here. Z is very attached to his and his lovey last tooth cutting so after this they Will be for BT and couch cuddle quiet time only.

Hugs and holding your hand

[Bex09]

We are going through this too Charli so am here to hold your hand. We made a special box and C puts her dummies in it every morning and only gets them back at sleep time. We did this a long time ago and has been working great. But recently (not sure how!) we have been a bit slack and she has started whining for them a lot, especially when she is tired. We have talked about the dummy fairy too but C keeps saying "not yet". One thing that does work for us, because C is so active, is that when she cries or whines for her dummy I say she can have it but only while she lies in her bed. At first she keeps going and lying in bed with her dummy but as the day goes on she gets bored and the novelty wears off. I just need to be strict and stick to it though.

[*Kara*]

Add me to the list of moms of paci junkies

We used to have it in the crib only and she happily spat it out each morning... then teething got bad around 9 months, then a cold.. and now she is almost 2.5 yrs old.  Not sure how that happened LOL

I have tried to get her to give it up at wake up but it doesn't fly.. we have had success in taking it when she takes it out to eat her breakfast.. she watches cartoons for a bit in the AM so it serves as a distraction to the fact that I have ninja'd the paci into the kitchen and out of her sight... three days of this now and she hasn't asked for it during the day at all today...

[scruffymax]

My DD is a dummy addict too, but at this stage only for sleeps, nappy changes, and (this is terrible) when I need her to watch TV while I do something (like those last 10 minutes of getting dinner ready).  At the moment it's not a problem though so I'm not even thinking about it.  What made me smile though is that DD is going through a stage where she is totally obsessed by shoes and it has got to the point where I have to tell her the shoes are tired and are going nigh nighs.  It's working for now but then again she is only 15 months ;-)

[~inbalance~]

Hugs charli, same thing here though we have gotten it down only to sleep times. I have to be diligent about taking it away though and putting it somewhere unreachable. The 'suckie box' was a great idea and eliminated a lot of meltdowns surrounding taking it away. Still no idea how we're going to get rid of it for good though!

[ZacsMumme]

Hugs,hope tomorrow is easier x

[shivi]

Hugs ladies xxx

I had two dummy (we call them doo doos around here ;-) addicts but around 2yrs 3 mths in Oscar's case (he had all teeth by then) and a lot more in Emma's (she got her 2yr molars close to 3 yrs) we limited it to bedroom only.
Both of them gave them away completely and without any hassle at 3yrs 8 mths (Ozzie to Santa) and at 3 yr 4 mths (Emma to the Easter Bunny last year).
I remember giving mine to Santa when I was just short of 4 yrs (my b'day in in Feb). I then got a whopper of an ear infection and in the supermarket, I spoke to a big poster of Santa and begged him for it back, just while I was sick. My mammy got it for me and I then gave it again, no issues....Emma was also supposed to give hers away the Christmas of her 3rd bday but was extremely ill so we waited for Springtime.

S x
ps. I have a funny photo of both of mine with dummies in - will try and find it and post it. Ozzie looks so big (was a big preschooler) and funny, just a few days before THAT dummy christmas x

[shivi]

Here it is x

[Lolly]

We had a box for them and kept them only for bedtime in the months leading up to removing it. We talked about the dummy fairy coming and bringing her a present instead.

Then ladies, do what I did...... go away on a residential course for 5 nights and let your other half do the removal bit so it's all done when you get back .

I had no idea he was going to do it and I was upset of the idea of her not having it while I was away - but she was totally fine and only asked for it in the mornings and not at bedtime. The dummy fairy told us to take her shopping to choose a new toy which she was delighted with!

Laura