For the last few weeks, DD has been waking up 30 min after she goes to sleep almost every night (unless she rolls around for an hour before she drifts off - then she stays asleep
). At first, she would cry out quickly and go right back to sleep. She stopped self-settling after MIL watched her one night and went in and rocked her as soon as she cried out (no idea if this is a coincidence or if it really did undo our hard work
). Now she cries out quickly, rolls around, cries out again, rolls some more, and on it goes until she goes to sleep (anywhere from 30 to 90 min). If it's a very short cry, we don't go in. As soon as the crying gets intense we go in and try patting or stroking her back. She usually cries for a minute or 2 while I pat and then settles with the occasional head movement. On the good days she goes to sleep. On the bad days, she'll settle and seem to be sleeping and then start rolling around. We usually leave her once she starts making large movements. On occasion, we have tried rocking her to sleep which usually doesn't work. Sometimes she goes back to sleep on her own and sometimes with DH or I patting her back. Some nights the patting and stroking really seems to work and other nights it seems to interfere and make it worse. I end up totally confused about what to do and it seems like every night I do the wrong thing.
I'm fairly certain that she's OT by BT and that's the cause of the ENW. We are working on that with an earlier BT. In the meantime, I need help with a plan for dealing with this. Am I correct in thinking that our inconsistency (sometimes rocking her, sometimes picking her up, lack of persistence with patting) is part of the problem?
I would appreciate any advice or help to come up with a plan for how to deal with this tonight. After her first "I need you cry" should I keep patting until she's in a deep sleep or just until she's calm? Or is it time to try PU/PD or W2S?
The good news is that once she's asleep after the ENW, she STTN so I at least am fairly well-rested (although still very frustrated) by BT.