I think at this age, they probably feel hunger in the middle of the night, in the same way that you or I feel hungry if you wake up. This doesn't mean that we go and make ourselves a sandwich though.
I got a good laugh from this because I often eat in the MOTN. DD did a spell of STTN at 4 mo and I was still getting up to eat
Your explanation makes sense. Feeding is definitely the quickest way to get her back to sleep. If she starts waking every night again, I'll rethink my strategy but for now, I won't worry about feeding her for NWs if she won't settle.
Tonight was our best night ever!!!!
I cuddled her until she was sucking her blanket and nice and calm, put her down, and walked away. She fussed a few times and was asleep in 10 minutes! No wake ups yet! Thank you so much for your advice. It's really helped me to know that if BT is terrible I can come on here, whine a bit and get some great advice and support. Without you, I'd probably still be in BT h*ll and it's nice to have someone to "talk" to about it, especially with DH gone every night.
The last few days, she's done best with a wind down at 6:40 and only 8h30 of A time in the day. It's a lot less A time than she had been having - I'm sure it will change once this tooth cuts and she's totally healthy but it's working for now so I'm happy. With luck, I'll get a few days of grace before I have to figure things out again.