naptime and bedtime issues, kicking the walls

[*Jo*]

Levi is now 21 months old and for ages now he kicks, hits, headbangs the wall before falling asleep, he does it really hard, the whole house shakes and sometimes he hurts himself, he doesnt do it to fall asleep, he does it because he doesnt want to go to sleep. Wondering if just ignoring it is the answer or do I keep going in there and saying "Go to sleep" and walking out. Im about ready to lose it with him as this has been going on for months now.

his day looks like this roughly
6.30am wakeup
1-2 (or 2.30 if i dont wake him) nap
7pm

he resists both sleeps, yet if i was to rub his head he would fall asleep wihtin seconds so I know hes tired

what to do? everyone is getting annoyed and I need to keep his bedtime at 7pm, also I considered he may be droppng the nap early but he still needs a sleep, ive even tried just a 45min nap, yet some days there are no issues going to bed. the boys share a room so I have to take Caleb out now and put him in my bed till Levi is asleep and then somehow get Caleb back to his own bed later, being 7 months pregnant this is no easy task and I need a solution

[ZacsMumme]

Has he always been lsn? Could be OT creeping in making it hard for him to sleep with that nap only at 1 hr some days YK?

What about a later nap? Maybe try 1.30? - as Z has got older his nap has drifted back. Is now at 2-3.30 and he will still go down at BT at 7.30 (but he wakes at 7am ish)

[*Jo*]

hes always been normal sleep needs, could sleep 1.5-2 hours and still do 12 hours at night, sometimes 11.5 but I was ok with that. Ive only just moved his nap to 1pm after pushing it out slowly from 12 and then 12.30 etc after he was only doing 1 hour naps on his own, now i have to wake him at 1 hour or he will sleep longer so I figured 1pm was the right time. even at daycare if they put him down at 1.30 he will sleep 1 hour 15mins to 1.5 hours. He is super wired by bedtime, laughing and squealing and i know that usually means UT but Ive tried putting him down a bit later and get the same results. some days he still gives me 12 hour nights so I cant complain about how much sleep, its just the issue of him fighting me at the sleeptimes

Im too scared to let him nap any later than 1.30 for fear of a really late bedtime