Hi! Hugs for the nw's. there's a lot going on with your Lo. I take it, he's pretty busy during the day?
Ok, when i read through your post, I see a few things that may be the source of the nw.
The standing in the crib. Unfortunately, this is developmental and will pass with time. I realize that's not exactly what you want to hear so I would recommend that your Lo gets lots of time to practice standing, pulling up, etc during the day. My DS was a very busy guy and took to standing also. I found that if he was physically tired, he would sleep much better. So lots of activity during the day and then a good wind down routine to signal, it's time to sleep. Wrt standing, what I ended up doing was to lay him down if he stood and then I would lay my hands on his chest and legs until he relaxed. Then he fell asleep.
Comfort items. It sounds like he uses your hair as a comfort item so you have a good idea to give him a lock of your hair. I would do this and see how it goes.
Your routine looks good but I'm wondering if he can handle a slightly longer A time? Try keeping him up for an extra 10 min for the next few days and see how he does,
Lastly co-sleeping. I'll admit I don't have any experience with it. You can see how he does with the suggestions above and sleeping in his cot but if he's dependent on sleeping with you here is some good info regarding weaning co-sleeping.
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