Great that you used coconut oil for the ice-cream. Way better option - the rice bran oil is damaged trans fat
I think the main thing with diet change is just the getting your head around it more than anything. I have found so many amazing an inspirational blogs where the recipes and foods cooked there look and taste great and are using very restricted ingredients. Main thing is getting out of the mode of instant foods and cooking from scratch. I am sure a lot of the girls round here do anyway. And now I guess you are going to ask for those great blogs
Quirky cooking is one of my faves
Paleo blogs seem to be really great as they are all dairy free....
I honestly don't miss cheese anymore but I am not sure what I would do without butter.....
Kids who like eating veges with cheese might like ghee, many very sensitive to dairy proteins can tolerate it, and steamed veges taste lovely and sweet with some ghee on top, not to mention the fatty acids in the ghee will help the vitamins in the veges be absorbed sand translated more readily by the body. Definantly a good idea to eat veges with a saturated fat.
As for the DH's just steam roll them