Urgent help please 14m old constant NW's/crying and I have surgery under a week!

[ashley10]

Please help my 14 month old is waking constantly and crying. he doesn't have a comfort toy/dummy etc even though I have tried. He teeths terribly and it can go on for weeks. He suffers from reflux too but his meds have just been up'd. The past 5 nights have been terrible. Waking for a bottle at between 10 and midnight. Then waking between 2-3 screaming and can't get him back to sleep. I hold him and he settles for a while put when I put him back to bed he wakes crying. So I left him in the cot but stayed in the room telling him it was ok and to go back to sleep. Last night took 2.5hrs to get him to settle.

With surgery for me on Mon I have to try and get it a bit better for my mum and husband that will be getting up to him. I have tried nurofen and teething gel but still the same.

Our day is like this:
6am - Wake up breakfast and bottle
11/11.30 - Bottle and Nap
1.30/2.00 - Wake and lunch
5.00 - Dinner and reflux med
6.00/6.30 - Bottle and bed

He has been on 1 nap for 4 months.

Any advice so much appreciated.

[ashley10]

Thought I should add he has never ever STTN! Used to have a bottle back to sleep and then awake at 6.

[speechie]

Any ear infections? It sounds like what my LO did when he was teething and had ear issues...

[ZacsMumme]

Oh Hun do you need it! (hugs)
I agree, it wouldn't hurt to get his ears checked. Z often got ear infections around this age when teething. The reflux doesn't help either

His day looks fine. You could possibly move the nap later, but it doesn't sound like a routine issue, more like pain

[ashley10]

Had him checked this morning and all good no ear infections. Teething?? Nurofen not working though.

[hulagirl]

Hi  hun. Can't give much help on the sleep side but my lo has reflux. Don't give nurofen as it does more damage with a reflux baby than the meds can help.
What medication is he on.
My lo is the same age and gets a flare up really bad when teething.
I have to go now as lo is up but feel free to pm me if you want to chat reflux. X

[anna*]

(((hugs))) does he settle to sleep independently at bedtime and for naps?

[ashley10]

yes he does fall asleep on his own for naps and bedtime. last night he woke at 11pm for a bottle and then 4.15am and wouldn't go back to sleep even when I brought him in to our bed. I took him back to his and sat in the chair telling him it was time to sleep. He then slept for another 30mins!

[ashley10]

His room is a little chilly but I leave the heater on...should I look at changing rooms for him? Also my DS1 went into a toddler bed at 17months but really started hating his cot at 15months...should I be looking to move him into a toddler bed? his cot converts and is very low.

[ashley10]

Just wondered if anyone had anymore ideas/thoughts?? Last night was even worse ended up sleeping in with me

[speechie]

Hugs honey- sorry things are still so rough!
hmmm...15 mos is about when my LO started sleeping through, he's spirited and fought sleep!

Things that helped us:
pain meds at bedtime when teething,-we really medicated everynight with Advil and at wakeups. Nick was a terrible teether.
lavender scented oil/cream, and a massage before bed
consistent winddown with lots of snuggles and books
bath in the evening
keeping the room a bit cooler
white noise of a fan, even in the winter- just had it face the wall.

Are the bottles at 11PM a prop? He is old enough to go through the night without needing one, and I am wondering if he is waking for the bottle, or because he wants to get into bed with mama?
Hugs, I have btdt, and it does get better, it feels endless when you are in the midst of it!!

[ZacsMumme]

Hun I don't know if I'd risk moving him to a bed while things are so wonky it could make it worse YK? He is quite young for the transition too.

I also think the bottle could be a prop. If its pain then giving ibuprofen at the 11am wake should cover 4am, maybe not 5...

How well does he communicate? You may need to do a bit of tough love - Wi/wo really given he is/was an IS. We had to do a few Wi/wo between 12-16 mths during periods where Z was sick, or had a dev leap then developed a habit with a bottle, or wanting a cuddle YK?

I know this will be really hard for you though given everything else going on though

[Lynn1302]

Hi, I have just gone through the same thing with my 13 month old screaming on waking then being up for about 2-3hrs in the night.we had to give more reflux meds with his last bottle, we also stopped the nurofen for teething as it seemed to irritate his stomach more. I gave Calpol every 4 hrs during the day ensuring he had his last dose 30mins before bed, did this for 3 days even if he didn't show too many signs of pain in the day it helped at night. It is easier to control pain than it is to stop it when it has got bad. Also spent 3 nights doing walk in walk out for these wakenings. Seems to have sorted him out he has been sleeping through again. Hope something there helps

[speechie]

Yup, we did wi/wo and it really helped.