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Thumbsucking weaned 20mth old's sleep crisis
« on: June 05, 2013, 02:38:13 am »
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So my 20mth old DS has been pretty cool with changes. He gave up his bottles at 8 mths without any fuss and this week I managed to get him weaned from thumbsucking totally without a lot of fight from him. (I would have let him suck at his thumb for as long as he wanted, but he was so aggressive and his thumb looked really really sore all the time, would bleed too and gave him a real bad sleep disrupting itch) ...but, he is a good kid and God bless him for that.....

At first I was in cloud nine that I managed to pull this off, but now I am totally guild ridden. He seems to be in a sleep crisis phase right now. He fights and fights at bed-time when before he ran to his room when it was time to sleep. It's like he wants to go to sleep but doesn't know how. He has a lovie, but that doesn't seem to comfort him like when he sucked his thumb.

My winddown routine is bath, read 3 books and sing a song if he wants it.

Is this just a phase or can I do something else to help him?? I need you alls opinions and ideas. He is good kid, seemed so content with thumbsucking, but now he just seems lost. I hate to see him like this. I wish I had never had to stop his thumbsucking

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Re: Thumbsucking weaned 20mth old's sleep crisis
« Reply #1 on: June 05, 2013, 18:24:15 pm »
Wow, I'm amazed that you got him to stop.  My DS is just a couple months older and I really don't know how I would prevent him from sucking his thumb.  Does he no longer have access to his thumb at sleep times?  My guess is that if he did and is having such a hard time settling, that he would still be sucking.  If you wish you hadn't taken it from him, do you want to let him suck again? My DS got a dry, cracked thumb that occasionally bled when the winter first started last year, but it quickly became tougher skin almost like a callous.  If you put lotion on it during the day, do you think that would help? (Something like Aquaphor or Eucerin.) My DS also sucks his thumb more vigorously when teething... do you see any other signs of teething?  If so, it might be worth giving him pain meds before sleep times to see if that helps.

If ultimately you don't want hit to suck his thumb, I think you just need to give it time.  He's known only one way of going to sleep for his whole life, it'll take a little while for him to figure out a new way.  Usually, you can see progress within 3 days of making a change, but it can take up to a week or two for things to get ironed out. (((Hugs)))



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Re: Thumbsucking weaned 20mth old's sleep crisis
« Reply #2 on: June 06, 2013, 01:57:08 am »
Thanks Katie for your reply....

Well I tried Acqaphor every night to get rid of that hard cracked skin on his thumb, but it worked rarely...I guess he had his thumb in his mouth pretty much the whole night. Even now when he is not sucking and it has been atleast 3 days since he hasn't had his thumb in his mouth, it still bothers him and he still has a horrible itch on his thumb...

I wouldn't have stopped thumbsucking, if it hadn't been for all the cracked skin...I wanted it to be something that he'd stop on his own.

He didn't fight..he was ok with it...I did put a little bit of that bitter med (Mavala) on his thumb and kept it covered at night. ..I told him that the med on his thumb is yucky and he shouldn't put it in his mouth..after a while he got the hang of it and stopped putting his thumb in his mouth..he never fussed at night for his thumb, nothing at all ..he seemed cool with it...but it seems like he misses it...I feel horrible that I took away his thumb from him...he was comforted a lot by it...

I saw twice today that his thumb came really close to his lips, so I think he might try sometime...but I am not sure I want to go through this process again..

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Re: Thumbsucking weaned 20mth old's sleep crisis
« Reply #3 on: June 06, 2013, 05:05:22 am »
(((Hugs))), that sounds painful for his thumb and a tough situation all around. Is he napping ok still?  Do you think he's teething? He's really early into being thumb free at just 3 days, so I think if you give him a bit more time he'll settle down. I'm still amazed he has the impulse control not to just start sucking when he goes to put it near his mouth.