Now that is morning, I clear up my mind and I know paci is not the proper solution. When you are in the middle of nightmare, a clear mind can be difficult to be kept on, sorry!
The night has been a real disaster, he couldn't soothe himself not even with my breast (and I am sure he didn't suffer from anything at all, I mean no cold, no fever, etc...). Maybe her was really OT.
I've woken him up at 7, after he eventually felt to sleep at 6 (since 3.30 am!!!!) and start the morning again. I couldn't cope with a start at 6...
Just to be sure re sshh and PU-pd, I tell you how I'm doing for naps:
Start routine and put him down in the crib ~15 min before time I want him t o be asleep; it's always very calm and almost happy to be down. He stay there ~ 5 min with my hand on his chest, his thumb in the mouth, and my shh. then becomes a bit upset, not too much. I keep doing it for a while, but he doesn't start any mantra cry at all. He starts crying louder and louder, flapping whatever he has and not being able to use the thumb anymore. So I pick him up, continuing with my shh . He brings the thumbs in the mouth again, soothe his self. I wait a minute , no more, sometimes even less, and pd awake. And start the work again. It's usually get at least 2 times, frequently 5-6 before I eventually can put him down calmed again, with his thumb sticked, eyes rolling. I think he's in phase 2 of sleeping when I put him down, because then I now stay with him with my hand pressing a bit and he has some startles soon after i Put him down. Frequently they fully awake him up again. In that case, he find me, just smiles at me, and try to catch his feet. He's swaddled , but not so tight because he becomes more nervous, and he doesn't like his thumb trough the blanket....
When He falls asleep, I stay with him till he's in deep sleeping, that gives me 10 minutes ~ more before doing wake to sleep....that never went out fine! So I stay next to him hours and hours, I must say. A bit upset....
Where're my errors ? And where's the trick?
Should I let him cry in the crib while I'm just saying sshh ore something else until he simply doesn't stop, if when?
Let me know....