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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #15 on: September 07, 2013, 18:14:39 pm »
Hi

I'm back ::) still plodding along with the BT shenanigans and now/ ew....however I've been lurking on other threads with similar aged los and followed advise to increase am a to 6 hrs with success so yesterday's easy

Wu 5.50
Nap 11.50-2.50 resettled at 1h40 mark
Bt pd 7 asleep 7.30)
Sttn!

Today

Wu 6.20
Nap 12.20-2.10 tried resettling but cousins were here and couldnt
Bt pd 5.45 (aiming for 6.10 asleep) but took till 6.55!! So clearly ot..

My question is what pm a time should I do after an ot nap? (Anything less that 2.25 nap)?? Thought anyone?

Tia!
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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #16 on: September 07, 2013, 20:10:02 pm »
Don't honestly know Aishi, for J that would have been well UT at BT, not OT  :-\ I wouldn't have pd any earlier than a 12h day ie 6.20pm. What was her mood like in the afternoon, did she seem tired?

Fwiw we seem to have had a sleep needs drop by 30 mins or so lately, it's taken me a good while to figure that out. I know your DD is HSN but possibly expecting over a 12h night when she had nearly 2h nap is too much now?

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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #17 on: September 07, 2013, 21:02:41 pm »
Thanks Katherine. That's what I thought that over the last few weeks and have been pd at 5h a after nap but she's doing the same thing :-/ I just thought after yesterday's 3h nap when she only had 4.5h a to bt that maybe I was pd too late...

She seemed tired this pm...she always gets hyper when ot and gets lines under her eyes but i just don't know anymore :(

Sorry it still sucks for u toox heres hopingbl they get thru this quickly xx
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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #18 on: September 08, 2013, 06:22:33 am »
I would aim for a 12h day. It may seem like a lot of sleep but if that's what your LO needs... My DH always tried to convince me that R naps needs to b cut if she has a bad night, I always think the opposite way. She's 26m and still has 2h/2h10m DTS and at around 11.5h NTS. They are all different. You know what your LO needs. It may not feel like t right now (it didn't for mevwhenninwas dealing with 18SR) but you can trust your instincts and you will get through this xxx

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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #19 on: September 08, 2013, 07:36:31 am »
Thanks Hena!

 Wu was 5.15 ::) so I'm pretty sure she's ot. A 12 day would make mean 5.15 BT tho ??? The earliest I've done is 5.30 but guess I'll see how she naps...
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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #20 on: September 08, 2013, 08:26:15 am »
Ugh sorry Aishi, that sucks.  Perhaps PD for nap a bit early and hope she pulls a long one out of the bag?

Just a thought, do you have a 'normal' BT for her or do you always just go by A times?  Just wondering if a bit of consistency for her in terms of BT at this age might help even if you stick with A times for nap?

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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #21 on: September 08, 2013, 10:07:15 am »
Aishi - really hoping you get a good nap today. I think DD was up at 5.45ish and there might have been some NWs but I didn't hear as DH turned the monitor off without telling me!

Sorry to hijack but interested in what you say about consistency Katherine. Set nap has helped both DD and I and I'm wondering whether we should just set bedtime too despite her already being OT and crazy BT stuff. All this guessing is drivin me mad and I get it wrong more often than right, so can't help thinking I should just give up on A time. Never did it with ODS as I was back at work and though he wasn't the worlds best sleeper, he coped and I was far less stressed.. I guess the question would be what time to set BT?

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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #22 on: September 08, 2013, 11:06:39 am »
Million dollar question!  But all you can do is set something and then after a week or so if its not working, bring it earlier or move it later :). I do think it helps to have LO going to bed roughly at the same time each night, if only for your own sanity!

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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #23 on: September 08, 2013, 11:29:05 am »
Thanks Katherine. Were not having an easy time over here ::) I tried set naps and BT a few months ago for a while but she got really ot...so we've been going by a times again...shes spirited and really sensitive to ot which is why I keep looking for the perfect a times  :(

Hijack away AS- your dh has the right idea. I think i need to do that!
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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #24 on: September 08, 2013, 12:52:58 pm »
Wu 5.15
Nap 11.30-1.45 resettled at 1.15
Bt asleep for 6??
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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #25 on: September 08, 2013, 12:59:01 pm »
Sounds good Hun, hope it works out ok x

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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #26 on: September 08, 2013, 17:50:54 pm »
Pd at 5.15 (assuming itd take an hour) and asleep at 6.15 so that was 2.25h nap and t 4.5h a to BT...think tomorrow I'll pd later after 4.25 a and see if she settles quicker. I'm assuming its developmental but maybe its it??
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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #27 on: September 08, 2013, 17:57:41 pm »
Well at least she was asleep at a good time, even if it took frustratingly long to get there! So hard to know whether they need something else or they'll just be crazy whatever. I've been playing around with bedtimes for ages and haven't had much luck so I'm just assuming its developmental. Or praying it is. Hope your night is good

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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #28 on: September 08, 2013, 18:06:59 pm »
Ladies this may or may not help, I figured though it couldn't do any harm. When we were dealing with the 18SR I tweaked and tweaked until I was more than all tweaked out. I then decided the best thing I could do is decide what I was going to do and stick with it. Consistency was what helped us and my sanity, and I
Guess acceptance that I was just going to have to ride this one out, however painful. Doing those two things made the whole nightmareish more bearable sndbitbmeant at the end of there was a consistent routine that my DD could just slip into iykwim?

Just a little food for thought x

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Re: 18 mo regression or routine tweak?
« Reply #29 on: September 08, 2013, 18:15:50 pm »
Thanks Hena. but what's the routine to stick to when wu, naps and BT are so variable? And didn't your lo get really ot like that???
aishi :)