BW moms advised to try EBT- now we have 4am wakeups. Please help!!

[pinkladyangel]

I know this may sound daft and i'm far from being an expert but could your lo be getting too much day sleep. Your routine is very similar to ours minus the early wake up and our lo os only 13 months. He does 6.45 wu, 12.15-1.45 nap and 7-7.15bt. If he has any more than that during day we have early wu. Also when our dd was 18 months old she would only nap 10 mins in the afternoon. Any longer and a 7pm bt was a big no no.
Its just a thought going on my experience. Hope you find a solution soon.

[Jodes112]

Hi hun, im sorry nothing seems to be working for you. It does look a little better tho with a second nap in there. I do hope you get it sorted, i have no other advice just wanted to offer hugs and hope that someone else can advise on other options. Do you think he could be ready to drop the nap totally? IF you had a normal 12 hr day could he last? Just a thought thats all x

[*Ali*]

Have you tried holding him out until later in the day for his nap? Perhaps 1pm? Maybe he just needs a later nap so he can make it to a normal 7pm BT and eventually a 7.30pm BT. What really helped the EWs with my DS2 was a later nap and a later BT as if he hadn't woken early and had had a normal 7am WU. At 19mo I would absolutely expect him to be able to handle a 5hr+ A time after his nap yes.

Have you tried wake to sleep around 3 or 3.30am?

And I cannot stress how Important it is to keep him in the room until a reasonable time. You would do it if he woke at 2am I'm sure even if he was going ballistic. 4.30am is the same thing to me, the middle of the night.

Good luck.

[j.and.e]

My ds was an early waker (4.45am was earliest). I fixed it by setting nap to 12pm and setting bt to 7pm (even if he shortnapped). Then doing w.i.w.o till 6am. After three days he was consistently waking after 6am. I then moved bt to 8pm and nap to 1pm to get wu at 7am. I also capped his nap at 1.5hrs at 18mo. He would do 11hrs at nite and 1.5hr in the day sk about 12.5hrs in total. Sounds similar to your DS. Hugs. EW is horrid xx

[Fefekabob]

I really really really appreciate all the encouraging words of wisdom from all you wonderful mommies!! I am probably more frustrated and emotional from all the hormones. All in all I am probably reading into this a little too much. I think if I go to bed a little earlier and catch up on my sleep, I will be more patient and have a clear head to sort all this out. I know this will pass...

I don't think he is quite ready for no nap... The shortest nap day we ever had was 2 months ago and it was 35 min. It resulted in 5 NW and a really messed up few days. He generally likes to rest in his crib. He will almost never refuse a nap (unless I make it too early, or I try a second nap). Otherwise I know he appreciates his quiet time and I don't want to take that away from him just yet. But I can certainly try a shorter nap and a 12-13 hour day.

I'm hoping that maybe with daylight savings things may work out a little better. And even if it doesn't, I am happy to know that I have an outlet here and can always find such great support from you all.

Hugs to all!! Thanks for all the advice.