This seems to be a common issue based on other postings but I'll still share what I'm dealing with...
I need help with night wakings. Unfortunately a few months ago when LO started having trouble going down @ night (b/c I had been doing DF wrong & waking completely) I'd read it was ok to nurse to sleep @ bedtime. I think he's now dependent on getting nursed to sleep @ bedtime & whenever he wakes @ night. I'd read here that often the first way they go to sleep is how they expect to go to sleep the rest of the night. So I've tried the last few nights to nurse him & then put him in his swaddle, sing, & put him in bed (same routine @ naptime when he can fall asleep independently.) But it hasn't worked. One night I thought it almost might & last night he was mad when I started singing. I use to use shush pat to calm him @ nap time & sometimes that would work at night but that doesn't seem to work anymore. He'll be 6mo tomorrow so I'm thinking maybe he's getting too old for it? I'm not sure how long to keep doing shush pat before abandoning it. He has slept through the night a few times randomly so I know he can do it. I feel so bad I got him to this bad habit that I'm going to have to break.
Oh and I'm still swaddling him but yesterday he started rolling from back to front so I'm going to have to tackle weaning from the swaddle at the same time. Do you think that would help him have some self soothing options? Should I introduce a lovie?
I'm still doing a DF, although awhile ago he started waking up before I could go & DF him, so then I'd go in before he'd normally wake up and shush-pat him until when I'd normally DF. That worked and we had about a week that he didn't wake up (and I wasn't shush-patting), and then he started again so I'm shush-patting him through again now hoping to get him to sleep through and not wake up. Because if he wakes up then it's hard to get him to go back to sleep w/o feeding him. Last night was hard after trying to get him to bed w/o nursing and then trying gentle removal when he got up. He got up an additional time at night and I had to nurse him again! And then this morning he had a hard time going down for his morning nap!
Here's our EASY:
WU: b/t 6-7am
E: feed 10-15 minutes after WU once he's getting a little fussy after playing in bed
S: 3 hours after wake up (we just did the 3-2 transition about a week ago, after I realized that might be need after accidentally keeping him up so long and then him sleeping independently for 1.5 hr naps!) He usually sleep 1 hr 20-30 minutes
E: at wake up
S: again 3 hours after WU, again usually 1 hr 20-30min (this is an ideal day, which we've had a few of, although not so consistent I depend on it yet since it's only been a week, but at least I know he can sleep 1.5hr w/o my help now)
E: at WU
S: depending on morning WU time sometime a brief 10 minute catnap about 5pm in the baby carrier to get him through to bedtime
E: feed before bed, about 7:10pm, at which time he falls asleep and usually in bed asleep by 7:30pm
S: 7:30pm
DF: ideally he won't wake up and I'll feed him at 10pm
NW: had been usually one b/t 2-3am
I'm thinking I might abandon trying to drop the night feed for now and work on continuing to have two good 1 1/2 naps/day, which we just recently had a break through on and I don't want to regress there! And then work on weaning the swaddle which needs to happen since he's starting to roll over. I do have a woombie and currently he's in the miracle blanket in the woombie so I know my first step is to get him to sleep in just the woombie. Honestly I can handle waking up once for a quick night feed if necessary for awhile. I know eventually it will disappear. My daughter had a night feed for a long time b/c she was so small and I was afraid to drop it because she was having trouble gaining weight.
So I don't know if I even have one specific question as much as looking for some thoughts/confirmation/advice. My husband is supportive and I tell him all this but I'm pretty much to one who does all the sleep training, nursing (obviously), etc, so I guess I'm just looking for some other momma's thoughts! Thanks!