The final stages of the 1-0

[ZacsMumme]

We do 5.30 or 5.20 even on his second NND. Usually on the first aftr a nap day it's 5.30-6 depending  on his WU and how he is during the arvo. DH gets home from wk at 5.40 so I try to have Z asleep before he is home or it's terrible. Behaviour is suffering as a result of not seeing DH much though hence trying the 2 nap days a week first. They can Have los of 1-1 time those evenings.

Hugs on the dangerous behaviour. This is interesting as I think Z is a little more like that on his second NND in a row!

[*Kara*]

I had the same issues with DH coming home and dinner being a disaster at best too - so hard to manage it all while keeping the whole family happy.

I found the NWing got better once I pushed bedtime... Using a really early bedtime actually backfired for us after a couple of weeks and still will!  I can do an EBT if needed but no earlier than 630pm or it will bite me with an early start to the day.. so long as BT is ~7pm, we get a 12hr night (or a bit more)... last night was a good example of a catch up after a couple of early mornings.. she was asleep at 715pm (woke briefly at 330am for a drink of water and was right back off).. she slept until 8am.  Typically, she sleeps 7-645/7am now that we have been nap free for a while.  Just like the shift to one nap, we had monster nights of 13 hrs for a short time.. then she adjusted

[ZacsMumme]

We'll last night was his second NND in a row and he had a 5.50 BT as he was pretty happy and had woken at 8am. He STTN which is not so common on NND ATM so hopefully he is adjusting slowly? I woke him/went in at 7.15 so I can get a nap today as he won't be getting one thurs or fri

I kind of like these nap days, so a) I get some relief and b) we get 1-1 time with Z which makes him so much more happier too YK? - he is very close to DH ATM and his behaviour is suffering when DH is away or he doesn't see him at night.

[creations]

Wow, sounds pretty smooth Sara!  A great night hey?

[ZacsMumme]

Oh no...he refused his nap today - chatted through it...but come 5pm we hit massive OT. In ended by 5.40 and delusional NW at 6.45 or so...I do  to have any chance to give him a nap tomorrow as he has daycare. Ugh I think this is about to get real messy

[creations]

Oh dear, I thought it was going so well for you!
Sorry to hear that

[michaeljacknnugg]

Oh pants! We're here to hold your hand through the mess.....

[ZacsMumme]

Ugh and he is up earlier than usual. 6.30 he's quietly chatting in bed so ill leaven I'm till 7 but mmmm. We have daycare 1-4 pm and I m tempted to flag it to get the nap as he will be getting SO tired

[*Kara*]

let him go.. if he is knackered, he can catch a bit of sleep in the car.. put him to bed a bit early if you need to

It's a long process but if they can make it to 3pm, it's time to ditch the nap!

[ZacsMumme]

Ok he napped. I just had to see YK? - but it's 8.45 and he's not tired uggghhhhhhh so I think we may have to just start to push through the OT now aye? I mean this nap has meant a 14.5 hr day so far!

[ZacsMumme]

Help! We're going through something mad!

I think it's a mix of 1-0 , BBB , daycare, OT? , doing new scary things for him ie swimming but he won't sleep!

He's 'scared' of everything, calling us back over and over. Last night was a 30 min battle to sleep then 2 hr NW 12-2 wtf!!!! He has not ever slept this bad since he was a baby.

If he naps he's up till 9 but 6 pm Bt he is fighting now so I m not sure if it's of o r he is regulating.

[Aishi]

Hi honey

Hugs for the crappy 1-0 that is never ending!!! When we got to this stage that nap was robbing night sleep and days were 14+h long we moved to set BT. It was a really long process and he got so ot that we had 5.30 am ew and 13-14h days with no nap for months but he did eventually crash and sleep and slowly caught up with ot. He was doing 6.45/7.30- 7 before the clock change which set us back and is another story!

Isn't your z good with tacking on? I think we had it really rough cos ds is lsn and doesn't tack...have u tried set BT or 12h days?

This will pass too hon (although I didn't believe Vicki till it happened!) xx

[michaeljacknnugg]

Hey veteran!

Yes, I agree - I wonder if his body is adjusting and he needs a later bedtime on a no nap day? Just 15mins might make a difference.

Are you spacing the no nap days out so that you get less naps too?

[ZacsMumme]

Aishi thanks for popping on luv. Yes, he tacks on. Well...did. He seems anxious and scared v clingy etc so I m wondering if this is part developmental too, so 1-0 but fears and all the changes in his life are making the transition much tougher (even though initially he was ok YK)

I don't feel he is OT. He is coping fantasticly on no nap days. A tired period around 3 but that's expected. He seems ok at BT, not melting down etc. but I do feel he is going to get OT with all this rubbish.

MJ&N I was going for 2 short nap days but even with these he is up all night (happily takes the nap) so I'm tempted to just go CT, for our sanity.

So if WU is 7.30-8 should I aim for a 11 hr day or 10.5 to start with... Or more!

[Aishi]

No prob hon. Hope i can helped as much as youve helped me before!

Oh dear haven't really had the clingy call back phase : / but when i was St ds at 2.5 (so could have been dev and I didn't know) i did get call backs and used wiwo. What works wrt to asking me to stay with him even now is that I tell him I'll be back to check on him/ stay after doing xyz and he's usually out like a light within 5 mins...

The other thing I do every night is give him a kiss and a cuddle and when he's giving me a hug I ask him if he's ready to let go to which he usually says no and hugs bit longer then says ready and let's go himself. If I try to hurry him along it takes much longer iykwim?

Re nnds if he tacks on and since he's only in early stages of nap dropping I would go with 10.5h days esp if wu is as late as 7.30/8 to prevent him getting too ot. And as u know if u do go with set bt that consistency is key! xx