Hello,
My DD is 8 months and for the past 2 months is very OT from the short naps and EWUs. She usually wakes 4-3 times a night and most of the time I feed her (also has frequent EWUs which take me 1.5-2 hrs to resettle). I'm just desperate to get her to get as much sleep as possible so I never wanted to waste her time on resettling while she can sleep. That's how I think we got to so many wakings.
If she wakes around 8 pm then DH goes ins and usually is able to resettle her just by walking in and saying "it's ok, you're ok". The usual 2 wakings are around 9-9:30 pm and 11:30-12:30. DH tried to resettle her once at 11:30 and it lasted 1 hr after which he said she must be hungry so I fed her and she fell right asleep. I can't really tell when her cries are hungry even after reviewing differences between cries from the book.
the problem is that I started to shush/pat(i dont' pat just lay my hand on her) her right till she is asleep, so shush/pat became a prop.Yesterday I started to gently remove the shush/pat from her routine which worked for us before and she was able to self sooth. But i think because she is OT it is not working now.
Also I would like to mention that yesterday we started with set naps. So her naps are at 9:00, wake at 10:00 to prevent EWUs, then 1:00 and wake at 3:00, 6/6:30 BT.
I know that this will cause more NWs so I would like to know how to sleep train her and resettle her.
here was our 1st set naps day:
Dec 9 2013
4:35 WU playing the on tummy crying E couldn't burp
5:00 shush/pat in the crib. Twice had a burp
5:45/ 5:50 S
6:23 WU E A(2 hrs 35 mins)
7:30 E squash oatmeal water offered breast but didn't want it
8:45 awake in the crib
9:00 ish S(1 hr 5 mins)
10:05 WU I woke her E A( 3 hrs)
11:00 E avocado pear water offered breast but didn't want it
12:05 E breast
12:45 awake in the crib
1:00 S (1 hr 25/30 mins)
1:05 WU crying shush/pat twice S
2:30 WU E A( 4 hrs 15 mins)
3:45 E oatmeal green peas water
5:20 E
5:40 crib awake, modified shush/pat where I slowly eliminate shushing and my hand on her.
6:10 S
6:15 WU crying then S and then kept waking every few mins with a cry. Very restless wants to sleep but can't. Same thing happens when we travel and she just can't fall asleep even if I shush/pat to S so I feed to S.
6:45 feed to S and hold in my arms
7:20 crib
8:18 WU self soothed
8:55 WU E
9:05 S
10:25 WU whining DH came in said it's ok shush S
11:25 WU DH did the same as above didn't work E
11:38 S
1:15 WU whining then crying. Started. To shush/pat but gave up
1:30 E
1:40 S
4:10 WU crying E
4:20 S
5:35 WU cooing the whining/crying A
5:45 E
6:00 lights on
How can I sleep train her during night wakings( and also naps and BT) to remove the shush/pat prop?
thanks in advance.