Set naps? Anyone?

[Skadiver13]

My lo is 19M and will sleep through naps for everyone but me. If I put him down he pops up at 1hr 20min and wont resettle unless I go in there and even then it's a long shot. He's always been this way.

[clazzat]

X was terrible for not resettling for ages - but the joy of set naps is that you just shrug your shoulders and get on with it.  I found that he was always the best at coping with ot - just as well for all the short naps he did! - so we were able to just push on through until he adapted.

[LovelyLilyandJack]

We get 28 or 35 minute car naps too!  Wierd,  isn't it?!

We're sort of doing set naps on 2 nap days but it makes J very UT so can't successfully do it for more than one day cos otherwise we get nap and bedtime refusal, short naps,  EWs etc. It would have been perfect at 7 months for us though.  I don't know if G would quite be ready for it though and it involves having a big nap at 1.30 - 3. We're also up at 6am,  if we're lucky!  I presume that's no good to you?  Will post it if it's useful.

I'll be interested to see what you do cos we'd never get a 9.30 nap (even a short one) and then another nap at 12. If we braved the nap resistance we'd then only get a 35 minute nap anyway and then nothing more for the rest of the day. So I'll be very interested to seek how you get on if you give it a go,  and whether it does work eventually once tiredness has built up etc.

[cuckoochick]

I'm longing for a long lunchtime nap but I don't think we'll get that until we're on one nap and even then it might be a miracle!!!

[LovelyLilyandJack]

Posted with clazzat. Did you just get 2 early short naps some days then and that was it?  Do they start to lengthen that second nap after a while?  I'm not sure it would work for us necessarily as we're mid 2-1 now but ideally I'd love to do this.

Cuckoochick - the biggest nap we've had so far on one nap days is 1.5 hours so far.  He's fine with it as long as his day doesn't go over 12 - 12.5 hours. I think it's the best we're going to get unless he's really tired.

[clazzat]

Yes - we quite often had 30-45 minutes for the first nap and then 45 minutes for the second nap and nothing for the rest of the day.  I can't remember how old he was when the naps lengthened, but they did.

[LovelyLilyandJack]

Hmmm.... Interesting..... I wonder if it's a way to keep us on 2 naps but without the EWs.

Anyway, sorry,  not meaning to hijack!

[cuckoochick]

This baby will be the end of me. So today we had another 1.5hr nap and now she's been singing and chatting away up there at BT for an hr! if I pick her up she'll G&T a bit drowsy but eyes can't stay shut! There's just no winning with these little people, huh?!

[clazzat]

What does her day actually look like at the moment, Nicola?  I am wondering if she *might* be disguising ot as ut...

[cuckoochick]

Be back to post last few days tomorrow. Today was a good day! .

[*Liz*]

Also remember even Tracy in one of the BW books does say there are some LOs who always CN. She just never really says how you spot them, and how you retain your sanity when dealing with one!!

[LovelyLilyandJack]

Sorry to butt in again but when you set naps but you're dealing with EWs, do you set based on your ideal WU and bedtime, or start with something close to what you're already doing (even if that's not working) and slowly push it back?  I'll start my own thread if necessary, just wondering how to start really!

[clazzat]

When I was doing set naps I used to ignore the EW and count the day from when I wanted it to start.  By 9 months I found that that extra a time didn't make any real difference.

[LovelyLilyandJack]

Great, thank you!  I'm making a desperate move and going to one set nap cos 2-1 isn't going well (2 nap days are giving us 2 hour long nws). I'm giving it a week or two then will go back to alternating 1 and 2 nap days if it's not working.  His ideal A time is 4hrs 30 / 45 so he's currently OT but we'll see if it evens out or not.  He's rather prone to EW though, which is why I ask.

[Skadiver13]

I honestly would not go to 2 naps at this point if he's only 9 months old. How long have you tried the set naps?  My lo is prone to EW's not matter what so set naps were a god send for us. Meant i could stop thinking in terms of A times. Set naps are much easier on one nap than 2 but if you are still on 2 naps you could try and just set a nap from what you'd want the wake up to be. Just keep in mind if your lo is a chronic EW than I wouldn't just start with 7 I would start with something more realistic like 6 and then move from there. Then try and set your CN in the afternoon. Does he tack on lost day sleep with eBT?  Also with the chatting at BT if he's not crying just leave her be. If you go in when he doesn't need you he's just going to stay awake thinking you'll eventually come in.