Thanks creations... all naps have been in the swing! I have kept track for a few days. We have no patterns or consistency. One day he was awake 10hrs, possibly more but I fell asleep, the next was a day with a good 4.75hrs day naps total and a 7hr stretch at bt to 3am with a 1.5hr nf and then back to bed to wu at 5am... the second stretch of ns was in the cot, first was in swing.
Anyway I am mindful of needing to stop feed to sleep, but I can't work out magic a times as he is so hard to read, I swear he has no tired signs. And when pd he is happy to lie there, and then starts kicking in his swaddle and grunting with the exertion, which I think is os him. So whereas dd I could ssh pat for ages but there was fussing to ssh pat yk? I don't know what to do with ds at all! He won't lie there and go to sleep but if I am there with a hand on him to stop the kicking he is happy and thinks it is playtime... the only way I have gotten him to sleep for a few weeks is to feed to sleep, he won't even fall asleep on your shoulder, and in the emeibaby carrier he wants to stickybeak around before finally naping in that now... sigh!