help for today-ew & set times

[Aishi]

Wu 5.45 eek but after that nap im not surprised

Im thinking nap 12.45-2.45 and bt 6.30. That way im close to my set times. wdyt??

[HenaV]

I think after that nap, that is good going and perhaps even acted as a bit of a catch up. I would stick as close to your set times as poss else it's kinda defeats the purposes yk? I tend only to move throngs by 15m unless the nap is an absolute disaster!

Hth x

[Aishi]

Ok thanks! x

[Aishi]

Yesterday she did

Wu 5.45
nap 12.45- 2.45
bt 7

long day but was ok ish night. Woke crying at 2 and singing at 5. I thought she was up for day but she went back to sleep till 6.45. dyt nws are ot?

other thing is that over last week or so at bt she keeps calling me back for cuddles (shes not affectionate in day tho) and if i dont go back straight away she gets angry then hysterical. How should i handle that?

also over last two nights shes been waking in motn doing the same thing. Is this out of habit and should i just give her cuddle or will it reinforce nws?

wdyt?!

[barbaraz78]

What happens if you speak to her from the door? This what i did when ds had several calls back. If he cried too miuch, I entered the room, gave quick cuddle and went out. Engaging him the minimum. The message was: it's night time, time to sleep, not time for cuddles"

[HenaV]

I completely agree with Barbara, indulge the motn cuddles.
I suppose I always take a fairly hard line approach because with R, you give an inch and that girl will take three miles! I learnt the hard way through various regression/sleep developmental shenanigans - at first I'd be oh poor love needs me, to realise (usually when it's too late and u have the some undoing to do) that the poor little love is in fact a little monkey and is playing me!! So hard lines in out house I'm afraid, even though there have been times when I thought I was going to break - you'll recall R at 27m no doubt Aisha when I was truly at the end of my tether!!


So, what is my advice I hear you ask!! Hold firm,  be there but watch out for monkey type behaviour and remind your LO that you, but she is in control here (no matter how out of control things feel)

As for the 2/5am - no doesn't sound OT it look from your day that she'd be OT - I think just simply developmental stuff manifesting itself in disturbed sleep. I think for us it was vocab explosion at this age xx

[jessmum46]

Just don't forget those teeth hun - some crazy SA-type behaviour and weird NWs here while the 2y molars cut.  Meds did nothing at that time - just riding it out. 

[Aishi]

Thanks ladies! i did what u suggested at bt so comforted quickly without a fuss and she settled much quicker. So hopefully this will work. I think what i was doing before was leaving her till she got worked up and so it took longer to settle her. So will see the what the night brings and have same approach. I was just worried giving in straight away would create a habit but if shes getting angry/ hysterical so it must be dev right?

 Shes not teething atm so guess it is dev but i just find that hard to believe cos she talks almost as much as her 4 yo brother and understands so much too i dont know what else their is to develop at this age! lol but if its not teeth or ot i guess dev is all i have to pin this on!

I still have 4 molars, pt nd bgb to get through *sigh*

but thanks again for your help. You ladies keep me sane xxx

[Aishi]

Ugh she had 4 singing nws and did 7.30-5.45. no chance of resettling. Remind me again how long this leap lasts for??!

[HenaV]

  hope today is better for you hon xxx

[Aishi]

Here to pick ur brain again. Ive noticed on the days i let her nap longer, upto 2h15 Capped she will have an ew.at 5/5.30 that i can sometimes rs. Is that from capping or ut/ot?

So yesterday
Wu 6.30
nap 12.55-3.10 (rs at 2.45)
bt 7.10 asleep

Nw 1.30, 5.30

wu 7

On a shorter nap we still get nws. Thoughts?

[HenaV]

Hon,

I don't know tbh, job to tell if whichever way you are capping the nap is giving you NW or in the alternative EW.

For us WU at 5am i.e. 10h night is usually OT, WU 5.30 (10.5h night) UT. Go figure.

I'm wondering if you are better not RS and putting to bed slightly earlier? Just thinking this because, you RS at 2.45 and then woke her 25mins later - maybe not help in that she just got back into a proper sleep and you woke her?

H

[Aishi]

Hmm thats a good point about nap l. I know 1-0 is a pita but i cant wait till she drops the nap so i can stop stressing about her sleep so much!

[HenaV]

And there I am dreading it, willing R to hang on to her nap!!!

Good luck today hon x

[Aishi]

Well she isnt following the plan :-/

Wu 7
nap 1-2.30 (pd 12.55)
bt 7.05 pd 6.25 cos she short napped but she took ages to settle. upset too. I gave meds in case molars are on move butdidnt make a diff...why cant she show some consistency re nap length and ns??! so frustrating!