I originally posted this in the bf area but realized its more appropriately placed here so i deleted it from bf and reposted here!
Hello, I'm so glad I found this forum! The information is so comprehensive!
My lo is a "touchy" 5 months old and has been napping very poorly since the newborn haze wore off. We are ebf on demand and lately I have been nursing her to sleep & then holding her for her naps because i am desperate to get her some naps. I'm also moving her bedtime up every night and have moved it the last few weeks from 10pm to 7:30 currently (plus another hour for daylight savings). I'm very concerned about the cumulative sleep deprivation from previously only sleeping 9-10 hrs at night with poor naps, some days with no naps. She's also cutting teeth for the last week. In the last month she started waking after 20 min of being placed in her crib so now I'm holding her through her naps and getting much longer naps. She also is increasing her night wakings and it seems she is habitually waking and nursing back to sleep as a crutch since she immediately falls back to sleep once put to breast and does not eat vigorously, slowing her suck rate very quickly. I have read all the stickies on sleep props & gentle removal, EASY and night waking. I'm sort of confused on which to focus on first. Removing the nursing prop at night during her initial night sleep? Or schedule? My instincts tell me to focus on gentle removal so that my little sleepy angel gets her much needed sleep and since I can't really do EASY if I have to nurse right before sleep. I'm prepared to implement the schedule and do whatever it takes (staying home & respecting the schedule for 1-21-80 weeks), I'm just not sure which step to do first.
Every day her feeds & naps are different and always have been but I think even more so lately because I'm constantly changing her bedtime. Here's a sample of our crazy schedule:
Brielle's schedule last 2 days:
3/20
Night feed at 12am & 5:45
Up at 8
sleep Feed at 9:45-10:10 unable to stay asleep while holding
Bottle at 12
Nap from 12:15-2:15 held by grandma
Feed at 2:15
Sleep feed at 4-4:15 unable to stay asleep while holding
Feed at 6
7:15 - Start bedtime routine
7:30 - nurse and sleeping while nursing and totally asleep within 10
11:10 wake escalate to crying unable to self soothe, nurse, sleeping soundly within 5 min, place back in crib
3/21
3:45 am - wake escalate to crying unable to self soothe, nurse, sleeping soundly within 5 min, placed back in crib
4:15 wake, escalate to crying, rocked to sleep standing within 10 min
6:30 wake, escalate to crying, nurse (decent feed) side lying in bed until 7, co sleep until 7:15 - awake
7:15 play time
8:45 started to get cranky & yawn, tried to put in crib with soothing mobile, cried, tried to rock to sleep for 5-10 min, escalate to crying along w rooting,
9:00 nursed to sleep, (hold for nap because she wakes if I put her in her crib within 20 min) sleeping within 5-10 min, woke & rooted at 9:20, 9:40, & 10:00, 10:15 nursed for few min, continue sleep until 10:50
10:50 playtime
12:20 nurse
12:40 active time
1:30 cried intensely in car ride to store (this seems to be getting more frequent & I believe it may be because she gets tired in the car and wants to nurse to sleep) definite sleep cues in store
2:00 cried halfway home, then fell asleep in car, removed from car seat and rocked back to sleep (doesn't stay asleep in car seat once removed from car). Resettled 2x while holding, woke up crying and began rooting, unable to settle at 3:20
3:20 nursed sleep feed (eyes closed while nursing)
3:40 active time
5:00 - seemed cranky and maybe tired, put in crib for cat nap w white noise and soothing ocean skin, tried shush pat, complained but not crying for 25 min, escalated to crying
5:30 gave up & nursed - sleep feed and still sleeping... yikes, bedtime is in less 2 hrs! Hopefully this late nap will not hinder her falling asleep at tonight
My goal is a well rested baby who can self soothe at night. I don't mind nursing to sleep, but I understand it's now a sleep prop and it really is causing a problem, combined with a scheduling catastrophe. Any advice on how to best manage my lo's sleep issues and where to start is much appreciated!