Oh god, thank you for replying!!!
I have wondered that about the feeds. The health visitor suggested solids before milk but tbh she is a little weird. The reason I put the milk feed after breakfast is because they aren't usually v hungry for a feed first thing as they've had 2 or 3 in the night. So last night I fed at 11 and 2. C woke up at 4:30 and if they wake less than 3 hours after last feed I try to resettle without feeding, esp as she wasn't really crying, just awake. And although she was awake til half 5 the hv said that when you are sleep training you have to be consistent or else the baby thinks she has to scream for an hour before she gets fed. Although I personally don't think babies are that clever or that manipulative, but I guess she has her reasons. Also I am really conflicted because I want to feed less so that when I go back to work it's not an awful shock, but I want to feed less at night as I think it's v confusing for them that sometimes I feed them and sometimes I don't.
Can I post yesterday's EASY exactly as it happened? Then maybe you can help.... We started weaning pure Annabel karmel because their weight was dropping and it was that or formula, which they won't take! But they got ill after about 2 weeks and I think because I kept persevering with food they got a bit traumatised by the whole thing and meals became a massive battle. Then my husband witnessed a meal (he had been away) and told me how ridiculous it was trying to shovel baby rice into crying babies - we gave up solids completely for 2 days then started BLW. Now they have finger foods for every meal, plus a weetabix between them for breakfast and sometimes they will be spoonfed something they particularly like at supper time - usually bolognaise, rice pudding or yoghurt! Although they like to do the spooning themselves quite often so not always everything goes in. But their weight is fine I think - they have chubbed up a bit and I have stopped taking them to be weighed so much.
Awake at 5ish. Shh patted until 5:45 then have up and got them up
Had had a BF at about 4 I think.
Breakfast - 1 weetabix and one crumpet between them. A bit of banana but they didn't really eat it, mostly in each other's hair
BF at 8
Nap 9:30-10:30 (so about 3:45 out of bed, prob awake maybe up to 4:30?)
Awake and playing til 12:30
Lunch - Philadelphia sandwich, pear, banana, yoghurt, piece of cheese, tomato
Nap 2:30-4 (so awake time was 4 hours)
Bf 4:00
Played til 5:15
Supper - omelette, veg, rice pudding. Ate quite a lot
Bath 6:30
BF 7:00
C awake at 10, resettled really easily.
Both awake 11:30, fed and back to sleep. Both awake 2:30, fed and back to sleep.
C awake 4:30, initially happy awake, then screamed from 5-5:30, maybe 10 mins sleep then up for day.
I tried to drop a feed yesterday so that when I'm back at work they would only be missing one feed - was thinking I could feed at 8, 5, 7 and 10pm. I think I have found a formula they may take though so maybe I should try that. TBH I would happily feed 3x in the night if they would go back to sleep, HV said at this age they shouldn't feed at night and that their sleep would improve if I stopped, so I have been giving short feeds and only feeding twice a night. It all really goes agains what I think I should be doing though.
Gah. If you've read this you are a hero. I'm just getting so sad about it, we are all so tired and miserable, my boobs hurt and I feel like a rotten mummy. I don't want to go back to work at all, I don't want to stop BFing, I don't want to give them formula. But I have to do all of these things and it's breaking my heart, esp as I'm so tired all the time. Pathetic!