Thank you for your replies!
On a good day when I can extend nap
9: wake up
11-13: nap 1 (only take 1-2min to walk to sleep)
Extend nap at 45m by APOP (pick up and walk for about 10-15m then she's back to sleep)
13:wake
15h-16h30: nap 2 (Extend nap at 45m by APOP)
16h30:wake
18h30-19:00 catnap (it's harder to make her nap at this time, I have to hold her for entire nap, but only 20-30m, never 45 m)
19:00 wake
20:30 start windown (she usually fusses and cries for this, when calm down, she still open her eyes for about 30 minutes when I still hold and walk before closes her eyes. I still hold her for another 10 minute, then I feel she jerk her body and cry, I have to walk again)
So bedtime is usually a 1 hour war for me
That's a good day. On bad day, she can cry for 30 minutes when in my arms and I feed her to sleep and it takes anothee 30 m for her to actually sleep.
Why does my bb have to fight sleep so much?