Wow, thanks so much for your details reply. I appreciate it greatly.
Your second
schedule sounds brilliant and would fit our lives perfectly. The issue is how I actually DO it and put it in place.
Since my previous post my son got 3 new teeth and a terrible cold which has now completely thrown out our night routine. so,
1. If he has a sleep in the afternoon he struggles to go to sleep for 7pm. He will often struggle with him until 9pm. However, I've been putting him in his cot at 7pm with his cot mobile on playing classical music which he loves. We're not at the stage where I can leave the room yet before he is just about to drift off.
2. If he doesn't sleep in the afternoon by 4pm he's so tired and miserable but he falls asleep after our dinner and bath routine around 6pm with his bottle on my lap. I then place him in his cot to sleep. This is what I've done for most of the past year and it's worked ok until now.
For the past 3 days my husband and I have had hardly 4-5 hours sleep a night. We're so exhausted. For the past 2 nights I gave him some milk when he wouldn't settle. Last night at 3am - 4am I tried water and everything else and he went into a complete rage which he's never done before for milk and guzzled the whole 210ml. I then placed him back in his cot (he has a cushion in his cot under his bedding to raise to top half of his body) and after some struggle he finally went to sleep. An hour later 5am he woke up again, my husband picked him up and he was sick all over himself and my husband. Of course after that he wanted to play. The night before we had a similar issue but we were so tired we let him sleep with us in bed. However, 1/2 an hour after having his milk he was sick and we had to wash him down, and strip everything off the bed, him, us and start over. I've no idea what is going on here...
Some of your questions answeredRegarding getting him up in the morning. He always wakes up naturally between 5am - 6:30am. Also, the nursery and I have always let him sleep and we don't tend to wake him unless I pick him up when he's asleep. He's natural pattern seems to be to fall asleep between 10:15-10:45 for at least 40 minutes.
He's now stopped sleeping in the car in the morning and only sleep the 1/2 hour car journey back if he hasn't slept at nursery in the morning.
I've tried for a couple of days to have him sleep in the afternoon and then get him down to bed later so he can get up later in the morning but it was very inconsistent from my part as I made a big change to his sleep pattern by moving things on over an hour for example instead of dinner at 4:30pm it moved to 6pm and so on. Regardless of my efforts to get him to bed at 7:30pm still it just wasn't happening and he still woke up at 5am
So, I stopped trying and went in search of help...here
Ok, so I want to put your suggested schedule in place i.e.
WU 7.00
A 3 - 3.5
S 10/10.30 - 12.00/12.30 (1.5 to 2hrs)
A 3.5
S CN 3.30/4.00 (30 min)
A 3 hr ish
BT 7.00/7.30
Could you help with the following questions also:
1. How do I actually go about establishing this and how long would it take for me to see results?
2. Starting with WU 7am. At the moment when he wakes up at 5am I would try and get him back to sleep. If that fails and he thinks its A do I still leave him in his cot until 7am while staying with him in his room trying to get him to sleep or would this occur naturally when the rest of the schedule is in place?
3. He's naturally ready to sleep around 10:15-10:45am and the nursery would be find to help with this. Do I wait for him to give ques that he's tired and wants to sleep or do I start trying to get him to sleep at 10:30am regardless?
4. Once he's slept for 1.5hrs do I wake him up or allow him to wake naturally? If I wake him up what is the best way of doing this - he doesn't take well to being woken up.
5. Again for the cat nap. Do I stick to that strict time or see if he's ready to fall asleep?
6. Again, do I wake him up after 30 minutes or leave him to sleep?
7. Then - waking during the night. What is the best way of stopping him from waking during the night?
8. Also - he's very clingy at the moment and the nursery told me yesterday he's started to respond to the door being opened or if someone heads to the door by becoming upset. He also will not let me leave the room and goes into melt down. I realise he's at the age of seperation anxiety but how do I help him through this?
Sorry for the massive essay - I really need to get this right.