My 4 month old just isn't taking to EASY at all. We have been trying for 2 weeks and things just haven't got any better at all. If anything i am getting less sleep and struggling to cope. The problem is he just doesn't seem to want to sleep.
2 weeks ago we moved from cradling him to sleep, or rocking him in his car seat to always putting him down in his cot. PU/PD doesn't work with him, he just cries and cries and cries on our shoulder if we pick him up, so we have been shh patting, or just rubbing his chest. I am worried he has negative associations with his cot/sleeping at this stage.
Daytime:
EVERY single time he goes down, it's 15-45 mins of screaming before he sleeps. and then he will sleep for 20-40 mins maximum before waking crying, and we cannot get him down a second time. We will go 45mins+ of crying before its time for his next feed. I have tried staying with him, leaving my hand on his chest, holding his hand. nothing gets us through to 45 min mark, and it is more typically 25 mins during the day
Nighttime:
After his bath, another feed, a little quiet time, this is the only sleep he will actually go down easily for.
11pm dreamfeed - doesn't wake and goes back to sleep
but he is rolling over on his face in the middle of the night and waking himself up. usually a couple of times a night.
He is also waking earlier and earlier every morning. He wakes at about 5:30 hungry and will not go back down
I am really struggling with my own lack of sleep at this stage. I feel like i am loosing my sanity
E 7am - feed for 30-40 mins usually
A 7:30 until 9
S 9am until 9:40 - 20 mins shh pat, 20-30 min sleep.
10am until 11am - shh pat attempted, lots of crying. never sleeps
E 11am until 11:30
A 11:30 - 13:00
S 13:00 - 20 mins shh pat, 20-30 min sleep.
14:00 until 15:00- shh pat attempted, lots of crying. never sleeps
E 15:00 until 15:30
A 15:30 until 17:00
S 17:00 until 17:45 - usually naps for 45 mins ok.
E 18:45 until 19:10
A 19:10 until 19:30 bathtime
19:30 until 20:30 always has a monster feed here
S 20:30
E 23:00 until 23: 20 dream feed
S 23:30 - 02:00 wakes crying because he has rolled on face, shh pat for 20 mins to get back to sleep
S 02:30 - 04:00 wakes crying because he has rolled on face, shh pat for 20 mins to get back to sleep
S 04:20 - 05:45 wide awake doesnt want to sleep. usually 45 mins shh pat before we give up out of exasperation
E 7am - wait until 7am, until feed starts again
Where are we going wrong and what can we do about it? He seems tired all the time, but just wont sleep enough to make it better.