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Re: extending A
« Reply #15 on: May 29, 2014, 12:28:17 pm »
My A's are around 3h now, I can try and extend further as she is close to 9 months, but she gets tired around 3 h.

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Re: extending A
« Reply #16 on: May 29, 2014, 12:38:47 pm »
I would add another 15 minutes and hold it for a week without changing anything, you have considerably increased A time so gove it some time for things to settle and your LO to get used to new A times.
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Re: extending A
« Reply #17 on: May 29, 2014, 13:07:34 pm »
Thanks I'll give it a week and we will see. Lo has just started sitting on her own, and crawling so it all happens in the same time, I should give her more time.

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Re: extending A
« Reply #18 on: June 03, 2014, 09:22:26 am »
after 5 days I have managed to extend to 3 h, but when I tried extend to 3.15 (over 3 days) she gave me only 1h nap, so I went back to 3 h and she gave me 50 min nap. She still wakes up at 5 so with her sleeping around 1 h for both naps we have ages to go until BD and she will not do CN whether in her cot, buggie or a car. Bed time usually at 6 ish so  cannot do ay earlier.

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Re: extending A
« Reply #19 on: June 03, 2014, 10:30:31 am »
How does she seem when u extend to 3.15? Just from my own experience and because my LO doesnt fit into avergae A times, he is 7 months and our first A time is nearly 4 hours, this is the only way i can get a decent nap of 1.10-1.20 min out of him. I can put him down to sleep at any point after 3hours A but he will only sleep for 40 mins. And he will rub his eyes and get fussy at around 3 hours and will look like he is ready for bed. I would say that for 9 month old 3 hoirs is still on a short side, what i also found that to avoid the early waking i really had to push out the first nap, else he is up at 4.50 and i can only resettle for 45 mins of fitful sleep.
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Re: extending A
« Reply #20 on: June 03, 2014, 12:14:05 pm »
I have tried all possible combinations, 3h, 3.5,3.15, 3.20 with little result of 1 h max. She slept better (1.20 )at the end of the week on only 3h, but few days later she cannot manage this so what am I doing wrong.  I don't know how can other children sleep for 2h, or sleep in the car or pram or buggy. When LO was 2 weeks old she has not been sleeping from 9 am until 4 pm. Nights were terrible as she only slept and still does on her tummy so slept on me for 3 months as I was afraid to put her in bed. She has also never slept in her pram and will not fall asleep in my bed so bringing her in is pointless even for a cuddle (perhaps a good thing).

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Re: extending A
« Reply #21 on: June 03, 2014, 12:31:27 pm »
If we get an hours nap i dont try and extend i just get him up and carry on woth the day, Oskar only ever slept for 2-3 hours for the first 8 weeks and only in a moving pram. Now there is no chance of any sleep in a pram, max 40 mins in a car seat and no chance of cuddling to sleep for us either.  If u say u only every get an hour nap on say 3.30A time then go with that, that means u wont need to do the catnap and no EBT then.
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Re: extending A
« Reply #22 on: June 03, 2014, 15:54:07 pm »
I think that I would go with it, even if only naps for 1 h if she was waking up at 7. The problem is that LO gets up at 5am every morning so even with bedtime at 6:30 she still has over 4 h to go until BT. So far Im unable to extend her WU time even if she manages CN.

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Re: extending A
« Reply #23 on: June 03, 2014, 20:18:32 pm »
5 am is silly o clock but i know a lot of babies do wake early.
What i would do is try and push that first nap out a bit more, so try and extend A time and hold it for a few days. At some point u should be able to get more than 1hour nap. Its a bit of a trial and erro really.

If you went for 3.5 awake time even with two 1 hour naps u can get to reasonable BT. i would say thay 6.30 is a bit late for BT if LO wakes at 5am though.  But hopefully if u push that first nap you moght get a later wake up time in the morning.
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Re: extending A
« Reply #24 on: June 08, 2014, 15:31:22 pm »
I have tried to extend firs A to 3,5 h unsuccessfully as she will only nap for half hour. On 3,15 she will sleep a little bit better but no longer than 1 h.
It made no difference to her WU at 5 am and makes day very long. She was waking up later when she was on 2h A 3 weeks ago.
She is unable to resettle and her naps lengths are all over the place even though Im trying to stick to the schedule. One day she will get 3h15 A and will sleep for half hour and another time she will sleep for 1 h.
Im also struggling with putting her down as she screams her head off every time I put her to bed.
Today she finished her second nap at 1 pm and refused CN so will go to bed tired again, It makes no difference to me if she cat naps or not, just one more thing to worry about, and naps, well she does not respond to schedules so I will be waking up at 5.
I dont understand how extending first A would affect WU time?

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Re: extending A
« Reply #25 on: June 08, 2014, 17:38:13 pm »
Im sorry things aret getting better, can u post your day in easy format to see if anything else jumps out.
If you get a 30 min nap on 3.30A and an 1 hour on 3.15 i would stick to 3.15A time then.
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Re: extending A
« Reply #26 on: June 08, 2014, 17:57:41 pm »
ok, today she gave me 30 min after 3.15 and woke up screaming, then after another 3 gave me 1h, and this was only 1 pm and could not get her to sleep after that she just kept screaming, BT 6pm. Last night LO woke up at 3am and I had to feed her I know she was not hungry I just couldnt take any more crying and was very tired. Unfortunately Im struggling with going to bed early so when she wakes me up at 5 I can be very grumpy. I think she is teething now(top two apparently hard ones) so maybe I just have to struggle for few days and get whatever I can from her. What do you think.
EASY is not easy anymore because if she only naps for 30 min i end up almost feeding her to sleep when next nap is due.
What i cannot understand is that her naps are inconsistent, sometimes she will have the same A in the morning but nap can be from 45 min up to 1h 15, it messes up the rest of the day.

Today:

5 WU
8:15 S
8:45 A
11:45 S
12:45 A
18:00 BT

earlier BT impossible as neighbors are very noisy and its like railway station outside around 5:30-6. Any noise wakes her up.

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Re: extending A
« Reply #27 on: June 08, 2014, 19:59:15 pm »
Hi are you trying meds at nap/BT if teeth an issue?
Do agree you need to start pushing that first A out as LO could be using it as extension of night sleep. Can you extend it be doing a longer wind down like extra book or nursery rhyme?
Unfortunately naps are not a guarantee and some LO just don't do predictable naps same as some are chronic EW that's just kids!!! 
I'd stick with 3.15 A for a few days then push to 3.30 A and definitely leave CN out as at this age will be messing things up. If you get a 30 min nap bring next nap 15 mins earlier.
Can you rock back to sleep or extend naps?
I know EBT sounds hard with the noise but can you put some white noise on or radio to keep a back ground noise constant?
We honestly did a few 5.30pm BT when LO was dropping CN.
Zoe


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Re: extending A
« Reply #28 on: June 08, 2014, 20:04:31 pm »
Thanks,  Ill try this, any new ideas are welcome at this time as desperate for at least 6 am WU.

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Re: extending A
« Reply #29 on: June 08, 2014, 20:17:05 pm »
I know that feeling well we've had a run of 5.30 WU but that was teeth! Keep us posted x
Zoe