i want to start gradual withdrawl...

[hayleystar]

Hi all,
Im hoping for sone advice and support. My son is just over 2. He has never been a great sleeper but perviously i used the walk in walk out technique abd he was then able to settle himself to sleep and for a few months slept all night! However over the last four months he has started taking 1 - 2 hours to go to sleep at night, and wakes 4 - 5 times a night. I have gotten into the bad habit of sitting with him (seemed the only way to get him to stay in bed). But this is taking hours at his initial bedtime and during the night it can take forever. Im getting no sleep and getting desperate as our third child is due in a few months. As it is im often in tears during the night due to frustration and tiredness, and i know i cant handle a newborn and ds at the same time!

I get the consept of gw but have a few questions
- do i talj to him, or just sit there without communicating?
- what do i do if he gets out of bed while im sitting in his room?
- what do i do in the night! He normally cries in bed so do i just return to my seat in his room or do i reassure him first?

Thanks in advance for your much needed help!

[ZacsMumme]

Does he still nap? If so when and for how long?
You say wi/so worked in the past, does this mean he has been an IS before? I'm wondering if your best Togo back to wi/so if he was? It will mean a rough few nights but it's quicker... Band aid and all that.

[hayleystar]

Thank you for replying! Yes when i did walk in walk out he became a great sleeper for a while and settled himself without any fuss. I did this initially when he was in a crib but i wasnt sure if it was possible to do while he was in a bed? He just gets out and runs to the door when i leave so how would i do wi/wo? I would prefer this method as it is quicker as you say, and also have been attempting gw the last two nights and its taken 2 hours each night for him to sleep!

Thank you so much for your help

[ZacsMumme]

Ann ok sorry I didn't realise he was in a bed
I 'think' you would probably do the camp at the door then maybe and repeat 'it's bedtime, go back into bed' when he gets out, but I'm not sure as my Z hasn't done this really. I'll ask for more eyes Hun

Oh and napping

[HenaV]

Hi there.

R was in a bed just before her 2nd birthday, and we had this free the novelty of being in a BGB wore off.

I basically camped outside her door (she has it shut) and the minute I heard her get out, I was in there. I'd simply go in, say R is time for night nights (or what ever your sleepy phrase is) and lead her back to bed. The second time, say nothing, go in and lea her back to bd, any resistence and just pick her up and put her in bed. Rinse and repeat until she gives up. So effectively a cross between Wi/WO and pu/pd.

Now (she 3 next week) if she gets out of bed, I leave her to it. She usually just getting a book Or something. She knows she should stay in her bed and on the whole does. We also introduced the Gro-clock
Just after her 2nd birthday which helped.

Hth

Hena