Confused

[typhoonfairy]

Hi.... I have come back to this forum as I am scratching my head a little and could just do with a little advice...

My son has never slept brilliantly. He sleeps through at night but that took a while, and we struggled with all nap transitions. He is now 22.5mo. He does have molars coming through, although I don;t think that they are disturbing sleep at the moment. He is a spirited baby who likes routine.

Recently he has started to play up at naps. Unfortunate as it was a regression but not the end of the world as we could still get him down. His naps have been getting shorter, and no amount of PUPD will solve this - however if he went to bed slightly earlier it would solve any OT. However, his daddy has started working away - now I am aware that this might be an issue. He has also started to test boundaries and I am aware that his imagination is coming along as her goes on about certain things that make no sense. I also think maybe he is trying to drop the nap - however there is so much going on that things have just got confusing. Now he has started to kick up a fuss at BT too - that IS unusual. 45 mins of crying tonight - he does NOT want to go to be (all the cues are there). He is probably OT as he refuses to nap in the day (just 30 ins today) and I am on my own with no-one I can turn to for help, so I can feel myself unravelling.
WU - between 5.30 and 7 (usually around 6.30)
Nap - around 12.30/1pm for anywhere between 30 mins to 1.5hrs
BT - 6.45 (although 6.30 if tired, and we read a story or two so he actually goes down around 6.45-7)

Does anyone have any thoughts? I simply CANNOT get him to nap without propping - should I give it up? How do I deal with BT?

Please, any help is greatly appreciated.

Thanks x

[ZacsMumme]

Hugs that sounds tough.
Is he sttn?

Does giving pain meds before a nap make a difference to how long he sleeps? My 21 mth old is teething canines and molars and when he's sore his nap is short if I don't medicate beforehand yk?

Your routine looks ok other than that short nap what happens when he wakes? Are you apoping to sleep or just helping to sleep for the nap ATM?

He's to old for up/pd at this age it's wi/wo. Do you know how this works?

[typhoonfairy]

Hi, thanks for replying.

He is sttn yes. But his wu can be somewhat early! He is just so inflexible with his sleep :/ I am frightened to take him anywhere! lol! Pain meds make no difference to nap times. He slept 2 hours today (propped in car as we were on our way home from nursery - sometimes I cant avoid it) and is like a different boy, so its clear he still needs a nap.

I dont know what wi/wo is... I will look it up! Just about to start BT routine - so hope this goes better tonight!!! :/

[ZacsMumme]

Here you go Walk In/Walk Out vs. The Gradual Withdrawal Method (HOW TO CHOOSE)
Tbh I think it's a bit of a rough time for them between 18-24 mths I know mine is up and down with sleep, teeth, development and an attitude to boot

His routine looks ok though, I think he is getting enough sleep 10.5 hrs at night is a full nights sleep and anything over 11 is pretty common. With a 7 bt then often you expect a 6 WU with some kids. That along with a 1.5 hr nap is 12.5 hrs and often a common number during regression or developmental periods (a pain though I know!)

So, I'd keep your routine for now, but maybe try to wean yourself as a prop if he is well? X

[typhoonfairy]

Thank you so much! I will ride out the storm glad he is normal! - lol x

[ZacsMumme]

No problem, feel free to post if you want help or hand holding if you decide to do wi/wo x