« previous next »
Pages: 1 [2] 3  All   Go Down

Author Topic: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old  (Read 3687 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline 1sttimemamma

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 7
  • Gender: Female
  • Posts: 593
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #15 on: August 10, 2014, 20:17:22 pm »
What would you do with this?? Today after going to bed at 9pm, he woke up at 7:30am. I had to get out of the house for the cleaners and he fell asleep in the stroller at around 10:15 and slept maybe 20 minutes. I put him down for a nap at home around 12:30pm. Let's say he sleeps until 2pm. Would you try for a 3rd nap ? Or do bedtime at 6pm?
Logged

Offline Florena49

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 27
  • Posts: 760
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #16 on: August 10, 2014, 20:50:50 pm »
If he makes up for missed sleep when u do early BT then I would go for that, If you know that he will be up at 5am tomorow because of early BT then I would do a 20 min nap just to get to BT. It really does depend how your LO copes with early BT. Some just make up for missed day sleep and still wake at their nor al time and others wake up really early because of Early BT
Logged
Viktoria

Mum to Oskar 25/10/2013 and Maksim 19/07/2015

Offline 1sttimemamma

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 7
  • Gender: Female
  • Posts: 593
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #17 on: August 10, 2014, 23:52:44 pm »
No - he's not great at making up missed sleep at night. He woke from his nap at 1:40, so I just put him down for a little nap at 4:40. So wake him up at 5pm and bedtime at 7:45pm?

This all feels like a guessing game. And he's on the move so much I can't tell when he's tired. It's not until I pick him up and turn on the white noise that he starts rubbing his eyes and digging his face into my chest and seems very tired. He could crawl all night if I let him!
Logged

Offline 1sttimemamma

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 7
  • Gender: Female
  • Posts: 593
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #18 on: August 11, 2014, 03:07:42 am »
I woke him at 5:10. Put him down at 7:50 and he's crying then yelling then talking and repeat. It feels like it was too soon??
Logged

Offline jessmum46

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 411
  • Posts: 14235
    • Location: UK
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #19 on: August 11, 2014, 07:04:23 am »
I'd have thought too late, actually.  A 20 min nap does very little in terms of restorative sleep, so effectively he pretty much did a 6h+ A time.  I'd have probably gone for more like 7pm if it was me......but, do you have a 'normal' BT?  Or does it vary each day?
Logged

Offline 1sttimemamma

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 7
  • Gender: Female
  • Posts: 593
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #20 on: August 11, 2014, 14:30:53 pm »
It changes everyday! I wish we had a normal bedtime.
Logged

Offline Florena49

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 27
  • Posts: 760
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #21 on: August 11, 2014, 14:36:30 pm »
Do u think it would be easier for u if u had set nap times? Your days would be a bit more predictable and it would be easier to tweak things too.


Logged
Viktoria

Mum to Oskar 25/10/2013 and Maksim 19/07/2015

Offline 1sttimemamma

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 7
  • Gender: Female
  • Posts: 593
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #22 on: August 11, 2014, 14:46:47 pm »
I have always wanted that, but the baby seems to do different nap lengths everyday, so then bedtime is different to compensate for that. You know what I mean?
Logged

Offline Florena49

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 27
  • Posts: 760
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #23 on: August 11, 2014, 15:01:28 pm »
Yes i know what you mean, we had that too for a while, but it has got easier during the day once we started waking him at the same time every day.

So i wake him at 7
And he goes down for his first nap after 4 hours, so the first nap has become more predictable after doing the same thing for a week or so. Then I do second nap 4 hours later and like for you the A time after the second nap is still hit and miss.
Logged
Viktoria

Mum to Oskar 25/10/2013 and Maksim 19/07/2015

Offline jessmum46

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 411
  • Posts: 14235
    • Location: UK
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #24 on: August 11, 2014, 18:01:34 pm »
Generally I don't think moving BT by too much helps.  Just my experience, but I think having a 'normal' BT that you aim for, with the option to go a bit early if naps are rubbish, can really help LOs settle into more of a sleep rhythm, especially approaching 1yo or older. 

Obviously the usual BW approach at this age is to work with A times rather than setting times.  But there are mums here with experience of set naps from an early age (I only did it after 1yo) and it can be very good for angel/textbook personalities.  Touchy/spirited babies may struggle more to get out of the OT that often develops when first setting nap times.  Just from my experience though, what set naps AREN'T are a guarantee of the exact same nap lengths happening every day.  You know when naps start because that's what you determine.  But LO may sleep more one day and less the next, and that's ok.  If you think that would cause you to worry though, I would stick with A times for now, perhaps aiming for a total A time in the day of 10.5h or so (typical sleep needs at 9 months being 14-15h per 24h). 
Logged

Offline 1sttimemamma

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 7
  • Gender: Female
  • Posts: 593
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #25 on: August 12, 2014, 02:33:30 am »
Me again. so he WU today at 8am - I woke him actually. 1st nap was at 11:40ish to 1:30. Then he did a 2nd nap from about 4:45 to 5:15pm. I am trying bedtime and tried to put him down at 7:20, but he's just not having it. He just wants to get down and play. So instead of going thru all the crying, I'm just letting him play right now. He's not at all sleepy when he's breastfeeding. My gut says he's just not tired.

Do I have this all wrong?
Logged

Offline 1sttimemamma

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 7
  • Gender: Female
  • Posts: 593
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #26 on: August 12, 2014, 03:07:16 am »
Put him down at 8pm, and he's SCREAMING (i'm helping him). I cannot figure this out. He had a really long 1st nap? So maybe it was too much daytime sleep?
Logged

Offline jessmum46

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 411
  • Posts: 14235
    • Location: UK
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #27 on: August 12, 2014, 12:25:58 pm »
You know him best hun and if you think he's not tired, you'll need to cut some sleep somewhere or go for a longer day.  Putting him down at 8pm was only a 12h day with pretty reasonable naps (and less than 10h total A time) so he may well have been UT.  When did he eventually settle and how was the night?
Logged

Offline 1sttimemamma

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 7
  • Gender: Female
  • Posts: 593
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #28 on: August 12, 2014, 14:56:45 pm »
He fell asleep at 8:30 and woke at 3:45am and then 7:20am. Pretty good night (for us) !

I just wonder if I put him down at 8:30 if I would have prevented the crying.

You guys are the best. Thanks for helping!
Logged

Offline Florena49

  • Resident BW Chatterbox!
  • *****
  • Showing Appreciation 27
  • Posts: 760
    • Location:
Re: Help with A times - almost 9 mo old
« Reply #29 on: August 12, 2014, 15:03:44 pm »
Thats a brill night by our standards too, it does look like he can handle that A time after 30 min nap
Logged
Viktoria

Mum to Oskar 25/10/2013 and Maksim 19/07/2015
Pages: 1 [2] 3  All   Go Up
« previous next »