where to for nearly 10mo?

[3littlemen]

This morning he woke at 5, and murmured/half attempt at crying, until 5.30 when I fed him and popped him bed with me and he slept til 6.40am.
wu 6.40
napped (in at 10.30) 10.50-12.50 (woke himself  - which is good cos I had no idea what I was going to do!!)
and now???
put him in at 3.50pm, fully expecting play time. 4.05pm and he's down and out. I'm guessing I should wake at 4.30, right? and then bt, 3/3hr30??? from then? I'm at a bit of a loss for where to go with it. I've finally got him 'used' to a 7.30bt I think, and don't want to lose it, a 6.30am-7.30pm day is beautiful as far as I can see (well better than a lot of other scenarios we've had!

And even though 7.30-5am is not sttn 12hr, I'm happy!!! I can handle that. But that was based on a day of UT naps yesterday I think! 45min and then an 1h05 and 4hr til bt!!

[jessmum46]

How did it go?  Your plan sounded a good one x

[3littlemen]

Well shock horror, what a night! I put him in his bed at 7.25 (3h20 from his CN) and he protested crying until 7.50pm, when he fell asleep. He stirred at 4.15am, when I relocated dummies and blankets, then again at 5am - So I fed him, and stayed awake long enough to put him back in his own bed. He slept......UNTIL 7AM!!!!! WOW!!!!

So, I stick with 4hr a time, capped nap to 1h30, 3h30, capped 30m nap, 3h30 or 3h?? It was interested that yesterday when I put him down for his CN he was rubbing his eyes deluxe, and he was doing it again at 6.30pm last night (as he was finishing off his dinner) and the last two or three nights he has protested his shower which he normally loves.  Could that actually just be OT?

[3littlemen]

So we've had three successful nights of feeding around 5am and him sleeping until 7am. The day is 13hr long. First a time great on 4hr.

BUT...

do I let that first nap go and stretch the day to 14hr? or do I cap and try and squeeze a CN in....

HELP!!!!

[jessmum46]

Not sure I understand what you're asking   I would allow up to 2h for the long nap, then cap the short catnap at whatever length it needs to be to keep to a 13h day max.  Personally I'd think going to a 14h day would cause OT issues.  If what you're doing is working right now though, I'd probably stick with it. 

[3littlemen]

This is yesterday and today
nf5
wu 7
napped (in at 10.35) 10.40-12.10 woke crying
tried for a nap from 3pm-4pm crying lots of settling
napped (in at 4.20) 4.25-4.45 woken
bt 8

today
nf 5ish
wu 7
napped (in at 10.55) 11-12.45 I woke him
napped (in at 4) 4.05-4.40
bt  8.10pm?
I don't know whether to wake him before 2hr for the first nap so that I can fit everything in, or let him sleep as long as he likes and have to extend the day or do an EEBT I'm getting 11hr nights for the first time ever so I'm reluctant to change too much...For instance, if I let him go today
he would have slept 11-1pm, add 3h30 to that (as he protested yesterday with less activity time than that) that's 4.30pm-5pm capped (if he naps then), then 3h30 to bedtime gets me to 8.30pm (if he goes down straight away).
BUT
if I cap the first sleep to 1h30/45 like I did today then I end up cutting back his total day time sleep.

He's also been protesting his shower which he normally loves. I don't know if that is related to being OT at bt (he has a shower last thing, then bf and bt) or coincidental.

[jessmum46]

You could do 4h A time, up to 2h nap, 3h30 A time, 15-20 mins nap then BT maybe 2.5h later?  Shortening the catnap may mean you can keep the day to a decent length as most LOs won't be able to do a full A time again.  My LO would have done something like 4h A for first and second A times, but only 2-2.5h after the catnap.