I tried to pd for 11.20 with ssh pat and she was hysterical
Well, it's hard to judge when you're not there but to me it sounds like she's not ready for the nap. I prob take her out the room and try again 10 or 15 mins later. I could be totally wrong of course but it sounds to me like she'd manage a 2.5hr A and then do a great nap but is complaining at a 2hr 10 min A time. What do you think?
Is that still ss or am I putting her to sleep?
Well, you've helped but but sounds like she needed it and it's still a step forward from feeding to sleep so I wouldn't worry. When mine was teething he always needed help to settle even though he was an independent sleeper.
I was thinking 3h and at least 2.5h a time.
3hrs is a really long nap. I would do at least 2.5hr A after it. As she hasn't done longer than 2.5hr yet I'd be too cautious to recommend longer but if you feel she can do longer (and she may well after a super long nap) then sure.
if she loves that long nap then the day might look something like:
WU 9.30
A 2.5
S 12-3
A 2.5
S 5.30 - 7.30
A 2
BT 9.30
but look at that third A time, it's short, mine would love that but not all LOs do. Some need a longer last A or the night is off. In which case you might need to cap one of the naps to find more time in the day. Either cap the first to 2.5hr or the second to 1.5hr ...I'd look for a natural stir in her light sleep and wake her then.
She woke whinging/crying at 1.05 after 1.5h but I rocked till calm and pd and she went back to sleep by 1.15...any ideas what that was??
could be teeth. Mine used to wake like this if he was UT though, always looked OT but it was UT, only proved by a longer A time and the crying nap WUs stopping.