I just don't know what to do anymore. As soon as we hear a murmur on the monitor, we know we are going to be awake flee ages and it's just infuriating and exhausting! !
Oh lovey, I hear you on infuriating, it's exactly how I would feel. If you feel near breaking, come here and yell at us
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or ask DH to help, maybe give you a night off.
So, first off to clarify, we don't want to get him OT, as that in itself will cause sleep disruption, what we need to do is find his sweet spot and get the sleep there. It's a question of distributing his sleep throughout the day so he gets enough at the right times. I think you're close! That may sound mad to you, sorry, but let me explain.
For that first nap, yes, I did suggest that you try and push it later, but if you've done that with a sudden big jump in A, he will be getting OT, which seems to be the case as he's waking at 30 mins. Great that he is going back to sleep, but maybe hold steady and don't keep pushing him. Usually we suggest increasing by 15 mins for three days at a time to allow LO to adjust.
Second, I think with this first nap, there is a point at which you need to wake him up, in order to ensure he gets his second nap in the buggy, and you don't get more NW. I suggest trying getting him up by 11.15 for now. There's a bit of trial and error, it might be a shade earlier or later, and will probably need to get earlier as time goes on.
With where we are now, I think he's on the lower end of sleep needs, not massively LSN, but definitely below average. I think an hour and a bit in the morning and 30-40 minutes might do him and give you a good night, that's my current hunch.
I think last night's NW was OT, with no nap at all in the afternoon, but you do say he settles down and then wakes again. Has he any teeth coming? Have you tried meds?