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26 month old will only be put down by Dad
« on: November 16, 2014, 12:45:08 pm »
Hi there,

Since my DS was 18 months I haven't been able to put him down to sleep, neither in the night or to nap. Before that he always fell asleep by himself for both naps and BT. Now he just stands up and cries when I leave the room. DH can put him in bed, tell him it's night time and walk out and he goes to sleep no problem. Neither of us can get him to nap, he just doesn't rest.

From about 6 months - 18 months he was a blissful, IS. Now, if I have to put him down because DH is away the night times involve me holding his hand for 30 mins and a wake up or two, or it can be screaming and panic, I sometimes resort to holding him or sometimes it can take an hour til I leave the room. And naps are out of the question. He'll fall asleep in the car or pushchair and that's it so I've resorted to driving him round to get him off to sleep. Lately he doesn't nap very long either and I don't know if it's because he's UT or OT.

He also wakes early and this is partly due to traffic by our house.

His schedule is like this

6.00-6.15 wake up (sometimes earlier)
1.30 - 2.30 nap (he wakes himself up and is cranky for about 30 mins)
7.30 - BT with DH 8.00-8.30 BT with me.

Should I just drop the nap? Or it is worth trying some kind of sleep technique now?

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Re: 26 month old will only be put down by Dad
« Reply #1 on: November 18, 2014, 04:47:30 am »
Some babies do drop the nap around two. It can be frustrating for Mom, but some babes just don't need it any longer.  You know your LO best so I think I'll leave that one with you. 
At 26 months, your son is definitely old enough to know which parent he can get to give into him and it's often Mommy.  Tracy suggests you teach your LO to gradually stay in their room for longer periods, knowing that you will eventually come back.  You can start by doing this during the day, leaving your LO for 2 minutes after some good quality time.  You need to tell them you're going to go to the bathroom, do the dishes etc. for 2 minutes but you will return when the timer goes off and you must return as soon as it goes off.  Once your LO is more comfortable with this during the day, you can move it to the night time.  The difference is, you do the usual bed time routine and explain to your LO that you will sit with him but only until the timer goes off (Tracy suggests 2-3 minutes).  When the timer goes off, you say good-night and leave.  If he cries, go right back in and say you'll stay with him for a few minutes and then you're going to leave.  You may have to do this several times but he will start to realize that crying isn't working anymore.  If he marches out of his room, take him right back with no conversation.  You have to be firm on that, because engaging with you is what he wants.  It may take a few nights, likely at least two but if you're consistant, your LO will learn that bed time means bed time.  I hope that helps!   


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Re: 26 month old will only be put down by Dad
« Reply #2 on: November 19, 2014, 13:29:12 pm »
It does thank you so much!

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« Reply #3 on: November 20, 2014, 04:08:42 am »
You're welcome!  If you have TBWSAYP's it's on pages 290-291.  Good luck!