14 month old EW

[arcticparents]

Hello all,
I have a 14 month old daughter who shares a room with her 3 year old sister and the 14 month old has been waking up consistently between 5 and 5:30 for the past few weeks (and therefor so has my 3 year old).
My husband has been going in to attempt to settle her and ends up setting up camp on the floor beside her until around 6:30 when they get up. She is no longer a fan of patting, and has never adopted PUPD very well. She now tends to get more angry if there is any attempt.
So basically she cries from 5 until 6:30 or there about while my husband puts his hand in/talks to her/lies beside the bed.
I have also tried nursing her back to sleep because she has had bronchitis (both girls are just getting over it now)….but I have pneumonia sooooo it's a bit too much for me to take right now and I'm trying to get as much sleep as possible.  Nursing her to sleep at that time has rarely worked these days anyways!
Her room is dark, with a humidifier.

Her day looks like this:

WU-5-5:30
nap-11 ish (tried earlier just because she's getting up so early, but that has ended in a 30minute nap and difficult to put down)
WU at 12:30 sometimes later, sometimes earlier…
Asleep by 7

So I don't think she's getting enough sleep?! Well, make that all of us! Any ideas would be greatly appreciated:) Thank you!

[ewabear]

Hi, my LO does the same, she is 14 month old too.
Definitely OT. Try EBT 5.30 I know it sounds early but it will work. As soon as she starts sleeping 12 ish hours during the night her nap will improve too. Stick to 11 am nap.
Then you can start moving whole routine 15 min at the time.

I have just copied what Ive been advised.

  I would start your day at whatever time you think is doable for now, so maybe 5.30am.  Absolutely minimal contact and no lights on before that time.  Only go to her if she is really crying for you, otherwise let her mess around in her crib.  Then at WU time, lights on, hello, wake up!

From a 5.30am start I would probably set nap at 11am, and bed at 5.30pm for now.  Horribly early but if you can get her routine stabilised then you could at least move it forwards using some of the DST techniques?  Or your other option is to set the routine based on desired WU time - if that's 6.30am then you have to be totally consistent on not starting your day until then.  So no playing, no taking her into bed, just ignore her and leave her in her own bed unless she is crying.  If she's crying then WIWO but do not get her up.  Then do not let her nap before 12pm and BT is 6.30pm.  It will be hard going for a few days until her body clock starts to kick in and let her sleep in later and you'll have to work hard to keep her awake.  DS is much younger but I have just done similar with him after a run of 5am starts and it has worked well to make him resettle if he wakes early.

HTH

[arcticparents]

Thanks very much for your reply:)
We've had some success! She fell asleep by 6:30 last night and slept until 6:30 this morning which was amazing. The night before, she slept until 7, but probably only because of her near 2 hour intermission of crying from 2-3:40am so ya, hopefully things are looking up.
I have been waiting until 11:30 or near 12:00 to put her down for her nap (especially since she's had later wake ups) and her naps have been better and she has been self soothing more often and going back to sleep both during the day and night.
We had a later bedtime tonight (7:00) just due to work/late dins etc, so we'll see how that works out. But it feels so good to finally have a decent sleep!
Thanks again:)