So in the days after my original post, I noticed that his feeding times had dropped off. So I began to use a 3 1/2 hour schedule. And the feeding picked up. Around the same time your post arrived I also received a copy of The Baby Whisper Solves All Your Problems. We are in a very similar situation as the case study on Page 231, outlining getting on a four hour easy routine. LO is now 4months. I will say that we generally don't have a problem with the night time sleep. Once I feed him at bed time he is generally a good night time sleeper. Occasionally I have a hard time getting him back to sleep, but not very often. I have made a few adjustments to better suit my LO, one of them being we are starting at 7:30. Mostly because my DS usually starts yawning at about 45 minutes after waking to start the day, So I usually have started our nap ritual by 1 hour. I didn't want to start with such a big leap in time. i think our initial problemis that I have been trying to follow the guidelines of the plan, but since we have a bad napper I Have always been making adjustments to our daily routine, because i didn't want to keep him up longer than he can stand, so we developed the catnapper. I was consistently getting 45 min. naps and a LO that would constantly fall asleep nursing, and not get a full Meal. I also started with Day 4 because I had already implemented the 3.5 schedule, and I didn't want to reinforce the snacker for longer than necessary. I noticed on the 3.5 hr schedule that his nursing times were improving, they have sloughed off again since starting day 4 of schedule on pg 230. But I expect it will improve once we get a little further in and the feedings get to be further apart. I can say that we have gotten away from him sleeping on me and that is great. But we still have a pacifier that he seems adamant to keep as part of our ritual. He lets go after he falls asleep so it is not so worrisome. I also took the Quiz and found that I have equal Parts easy and Spirited baby.
The first day of our new regiment was not too bad.
W&E 7:30
P/S began 8:22
S@8:45-9:30
E 10:15
12:12
S@12:50-1:15
E 1:15
S 240, i put him down and let him alone he fell asleep with mild Mantra grumbling I was amazed 2:55-3:21 Pu/Pd untill 4:06
E 4:20
S 5:35-5:55 Pu/Pd 3 times
E 7:20
S PD 7:77 S@ 8:05 W@ 8:35 PU/Pd S@ 8:45 ( the timing of bath and feeding took a little longer that expected. We bathe first, as he gets excited and needs the feeding time to relax
DF@11:30
NW 4:45
S 5:10
was he just telling me all along to put him down
Some where along the way I miss read PU/PD and I left the Room, always coming back immediately, BOO. At this point I am creating a new problem. I remembered reading somewhere "when you come Back". My husband read it too, and we just, in the throws of doing it all missed the note that said don't leave. At this point I had also taken away the Pacifier.
Day 2
Day 2
W&E 7:30
S 8:50 Pu/Pd 4 times S@8:55-9:25 Pu/Pd S@9:48-10:23
E 10:30
S Pd@12:15 S 12:20-12:50 no fuss Pu/Pd till feeding time
E 1:30
S Pd@2:50 S@3-3:20 Pu/Pd stopped 4:05
E 4:20
S pd 5:33 s@5:40-6:00
S Pu/Pd starts 7:25 S@8:15 woke @ 10 SP -10:20 Dreamfeed @12 slept till 7.
Day 3
W&E 7:00 stuck to the schedule instead of adjusting too early waking terrible naps all day
S pd@8:45 S @8:50-9:20 Pu/Pd till 10 no luck
E10:15
S pd 12:10 S@12:15-12:35 Pu/pd till 1
E1:15
S Pd @2:48 S@3:00-3:24 Pu/Pd till 4:05
E4:15
S 5:30-6
E 7
S pd@7:30 Pu/Pd till S@8:15 woke 10:46 treated as night feeding/dream feed
S@11-3:20 Feed (full feed)
S@3:45-7:30
troubled by not reclaiming any of the naps I re read the chapter and found our Mistake while my husband was on duty in the end of our 2: 45 nap. Oh boy did I feel bad, for the cat nap we went for a stroll. I needed the distance and to re charge. We PU/Pd for bed time without leaving but LO had a scratchy voice by the end of the day. He seems to go very quickly to the angry sounding cry/ usually while arching. Decided to go back to SP.
Day 4
W&E 7:30
S pd@ 8:50 SP NO Nap
E 10:30 fell asleep not a full meal. Woke and kept up till
S 12;20 SP S@ 12:48-1:00 10 min nap
E 2 15 short meal
S pd 2:45 SP S@ 2;55-3:18 SP till 3:45
E 4:15
S pd 5:15 SP S@5:27-5:55
E 7
S bed time with SP and Paci
DF 11
W 3;20 full feed
S @4-7
he woke prematurely for noise, so I continued on with the previous schedule as not to overtire with the shift in schedule. I feel like some of the night feeding is making up for being so sleepy during feeding times during the day. This is not his norm. He will semi-regularly sleep 10 hrs without the dreamfeed. Or we are having a growth spurt. But his day time eating does not reflect that.
Day 5 all SP with Paci
W7
E 7:30 light meal
S pd@8:30 Sp S@9-930 sp till10
E10:15 so sleepy
S pd @12 S@12:07-12:35 sp till 110
E 130
S pd @ 240 so tired sp S@3:10-3:45 sp S@ 3:55-4:25 when i coachedhim thru this nap he fell asleep 5 times but would wake if i stopped shhh for more that a few min. but the 4:30 feed was much improved.
E 4:30
S pd @5:30 sp didn't sleep more that 5-10 min. stopped at 6
E 7:20
S 7:35 woke 7:50 S @8:05.
The hard part about SP is that he wants to fiddle with my fingers, or hold my hand, and that is just another prop. He also lets out the angry cry after a few minutes of mantra for the Pacifier. Usually falls asleep pretty quickly but, I can't reclaim the nap. I can't just leave my hand on him because he fiddles with it. I have not been swaddling him because I am constantly finding his face surrounded by blanket, as he sucks on his hands. I tried for a long time just doing one but I still had to same issue. I have seen him put himself back to sleep in the middle of the night by sucking on his hands, so I don't want to take them away.
I feel like there is improvement in that he wants to sleep in general, but not for very long. I am hoping the shift in schedule will help with this issue. I am not sure which method to use, we were making progress, just leaving him to fall asleep. But after that one long day of Bad PU/PD to reclaim the nap, his Mantra becomes, angry pretty quickly. I feel like my presence is a distraction. I attended all of the naps today, hoping i could help him transition sleep cycles, but when he finds me there he just looks up an smiles, and then tries to fiddle with my fingers. and put my hand in his mouth. He isn't giving me any other signals that he is hungry. Do you think he is having issues transitioning? or is it just catnapping, and the schedule will help? Should I let him have the pacifier? H ow long of being present will help repair the abandonment, and let us get back to him to falling asleep on his own. When I do just put him down am i supposed to stay or just come back if he calls? It also seems like the dreamfeed has changed his Bm's they are Earlier, and a couple of times in the very early morning, which is usually mid morning. he has one or two a day. I also know that we are in a pretty serious set of wonder weeks, he is trying new things everyday and showing me something new.
I plan to move on to days 8-11 schedule tomorrow I hope we are ready.
I am glad to know that even on the bad days he teaches me something new.
Thanks, for all of the insight, it really helps. As many times as I ready it I am always questioning if I am remembering it correctly. When I read this section of the book it gave me so much hope and confidence to move forward.
H