Hi Naomi!
This is roughly our daily schedule (give or take 30 mins).
6AM-Eat and up for the day when I work and he goes to the nanny. If I or Dad is home for the day we usually put him back to bed to get a couple more hours of sleep. Either way we get him up again at 9AM to eat again. We follow the every 3 hour schedule pretty strictly and only occasionally will go 3.5 hours between a feed. I breast feed when I am home and he bottle feeds when I work (3 days a week). I am a nurse so the days I work he bottle feeds all day. When I breast feed he is still eating from one side, but seems satisfied with that.
Activity- After about 20-30 mins of eating we will change his diaper and play. Play consists of tummy time, playing on the activity mat, "talking", sitting in bumbo and watching people or the dog, or sitting in bouncy chair.
Sleep- Usually 1.5-2 hours after a feeding I will lay him down for a nap. He is usually tired and goes to sleep as soon as I swaddle him. I swaddle both arms and rock him for a few mins before laying him down. I try to put him down sleepy but not totally asleep, but he usually falls asleep right away when I start rocking him. He will usually sleep anywhere from 30 mins to and hour. Then we start all over again.
Recap: We feed at 6am, 9am, 12pm, 3pm, 6pm, 8:30pm (bedtime routine), & 10:30 or 11 dream feed.
Our bedtime routine consists of a bath everyother day, lotion/massage, lavender oil, feeding, then swaddle and rock for a few mins. He never has trouble going to sleep. If it is nap time or bedtime he is usually asleep within minutes, but he just does not stay asleep. When he wakes up at night he cries, not just fussy. We will give him his paci and that helps most of the time. If it doesn't help then we will rock him for a few minutes and he is back asleep. Lately, though we are lucky to get him to sleep an hour at a time. He has been sleeping in his crib usually, but during this cold we have been letting him sleep ina swing to help with his congestion. He used to sleep through the night with no problem so I have no idea where we went wrong!