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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #15 on: December 15, 2014, 20:05:31 pm »
Not sure if this will help , but we're also nearly on 1 nap at 10 (nearly 11) mos.

Our days are approx:

WU 7am
Nap 11.30-12.45
Nap 15.45-16.00 (apop in buggy/carrier /car - I plan to be out for this ATM, figure it's only for a few weeks)
BT 19.00, asleep 19.15-19.30

I am trying to push the am nap a bit later each week and try to give her just enough apop CN so she can last til 7pm BT (hard to do EBT here with older sister around) but sometimes I overdo it and she's a bit UT at BT. As her nap moves even later I'll cap CN at 10 mins, then maybe switch to EBT when it's even later.

I am finding it easier to go for long am nap cos it's easier to work out a single A time then
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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #16 on: December 15, 2014, 20:16:20 pm »
Thank you lovelillyandjack and cathn! It gives me confidence to hear from others who have been/are going through the same thing. Really appreciate you posting.

That's really helpful to hear others A times too. Something to think on. Cathn, how are your nights with 1.5hrs total nap? My lo seems to have better nights with less day sleep (in general).

Thanks both for posting :)

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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #17 on: December 15, 2014, 21:16:19 pm »
We did similar to Catherine with DD3...pushed the am nap forward and did an apop catnap until it became too much of a fight. She went to one nap at 7.5 months, my older two at 11 & 10 months respectively. Our nights have always been better with less than normal day sleep times.
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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #18 on: December 15, 2014, 21:36:35 pm »
Yes, we do better on less than average day sleep too.  From about 12 months J has averaged 1hr day sleep and 10.5 - 11hrs at night.  Now he's doing roughly the same,  but with 2 no nap days a week.

Always happy to share experiences of early nap dropping. It drove me mad at the time cos it was the first time I realised just how lsn jack was.  At least I've been expecting the 1-0, which makes it so much easier to handle!



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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #19 on: December 15, 2014, 21:41:32 pm »
Dd1 and dd2 both do better nights on less day sleep.  With dd1 we got rid of the EWs and so had longer nights with less day sleep , and with dd2 we get fewer NWs.
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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #20 on: December 16, 2014, 07:01:39 am »
We did better on less day sleep too initially. I would cap that second nap at 1.5hrs so as to not make the day stupidly long. You may find that 3hrs first thing might be too short considering what you were doing before? I'd give it a go though. When we were doing this the other way round like everyone else that have posted we did 4.5hrs A for 1.5hrs (capped if needed which was vvv rare) 3.5hrs A for 15mins nap then 2.5-2.75 to BT. For you, it'll be playing around with that second A until you can find the correct A time for him to get a decent nap in.



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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #21 on: December 16, 2014, 08:11:12 am »
Thank you all.

I would like it to be the other way round and push the am nap then do a small cn. However when I pushed the first A before I REALLY struggled to get a catnap. If I did it was way too close to bed. And I was ending up stuck in all morning ( if I went out in the car he'd fall asleep) and then spent the afternoon trying to apop a nap. If I can get it to work with an am cat nap and lunchtime long nap that would work out better because I can get out in the mornings. Having said all this, I feel like I'll never be able to get him into a consistent routine again. Even if we could get something consistent for a couple of weeks, it would give me hope! Lol!


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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #22 on: December 16, 2014, 11:40:58 am »
It will get better hun, promise  :). Keep us posted x



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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #23 on: December 16, 2014, 13:38:36 pm »
^^^ it will get better.  He'll most likely be on 1 nap in a matter of weeks really, which isn't long in the grand scheme of things, and then you'll get some consistency back :-*. Hang in there in the meantime and try not to worry too much about the current messiness.  Dropping naps is often/usually a bit of a muddle for a while
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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #24 on: December 17, 2014, 15:39:58 pm »
Thanks for the kind words. Really appreciate it and helps to keep things in perspective.
Lo started with a horrid cough/cold yesterday throughout the day so he's had a catch up day today from a bad night coughing. I did 3hrs A yesterday then 20 min nap in car then 2hr55 A and 1hr 20 min nap at lunchtime! Yay! The bad news is that he slept a further 20 mins at 5.40 on way he from getting hubby from work :( this is so unlike him, he must be feeling grotty. Going to get back on track ASAP as soon as he perks up. Will post an update.

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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #25 on: December 17, 2014, 19:13:41 pm »
Oh it sucks when they're poorly doesn't it? Throws everything off. Fingers crossed for a good night tonight x



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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #26 on: January 07, 2015, 22:07:46 pm »
Hi, I hope it's okay to post here again. Please let me know if you'd rather I start a new thread. Am in need of advice again! So sorry.

My lo is over his cold, teething, out of a wonder week etc. and we find ourselves in a predicament. I want to move towards a set nap. It's absolutely driving me bonkers trying to work out A times, nap refusal, lots of apop ( which I'm certain is now a prop-that's another story!) short nights, long wakenings, so I think a set nap might be the way to go. We've been on one nap days for four days now. But with a short first A and super long second A. Although I know this is FAR from ideal, I think my lo prefers a long last A overall which I guess is useful to know in the long run. The EASY we're currently on is

WU-7
A-4 hrs
S-1.5-2hrs
A-6hrs
BT-6.30-7

When he was ill I went back to basics and let him nap when he wanted so we've had to build the A time back up slowly and this is where we're at.
I have some questions regarding the set nap:
- if he wakes early, how do I deal with this? He woke at 6am this morning and was awake at 3.30 for a feed ( this is another issue we have) then wouldn't go back off till 4.40. He fell asleep at 8.50 in the car, I let him have 20 mins to get him through then put him down at 11.30. Is this the right way to deal with this or should I have just opted for an early long am nap and try for a later catnap?
- if he wakes early, he has to go to bed earlier which means the whole day could constantly being shifted backward. How do I deal with this?

I really want to try to get into some sort of routine with a set nap. He's stopped fighting bedtime and naptime and I hope to see some improvement overall with his night sleep at some point...

As you can see we have prop issues now and feeding at night too so ill post on the appropriate board.

As always, thank you for the support.

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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #27 on: January 07, 2015, 22:13:34 pm »
Should also say I totally acknowledge he has a super long second A. He is OT by it but can deal with it at the mo. basically anything is better than what it had been routine wise. I am hoping I can slowly increase his first A and balance the day out abit better. But it's going to take time.

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Re: For those who moved to one nap really early
« Reply #28 on: January 08, 2015, 08:52:55 am »
This link will help hun Set naps for toddlers: Why, How and When

Basically it means that even if they wake early you still stick with the exact same times hoping that they'll regulate. You can move nap time up to 15mins earlier and BT up to 30mins earlier in case of a short nap but otherwise you ignore A times.

I would keep as you are now, those times seem to be working well when he does wake up at 7. Especially as you know he likes a longer A to bed. I really wouldn't worry about balancing out the day, as my DD had the same A times when we started this just in reverse! Have yto go battery is running at 1%.