Hi AMJ,
I ve replied to your posts before.
My DD is 2 years 4 months and has had sleep issues for months.
She never has more than 11 hrs of sleep at night- regardless of what we do with routine- she has never slept for 12 hrs at night like a lot of kids do.
She has terrible NWs- 3 hrs easily- when OT and occasionally when she is having developmental leaps.
Only the other day I realised that no matter what I do with her nap- she will not tack on at night.
And like your DD she can be very hard to wake up from nap.
She is starting to refuse nap and then ends up OT on NND with NWs.
So I ve decided to let her have a nap for as long as she wants- usually she will sleep 1 hr 20 min and just accept that her nights will be short until she stops nap completely- even if this takes months.
Because I cannot deal with long NWs anymore. So her sleep just had to be spread over 24 hrs rather than aiming for long nights.
And if I have to put her to bed later on nap days so be it.
Also I think that it's ok for her to have a longish nap on days when she does nap to compensate for when she doesn't.
But solving her sleep issues has been the hardest thing for me.
She is now potty trained and wakes up at night for a wee most nights- which is yet another cause for wakening and then struggling to go back to sleep