Hi
I really need some help in regards to promoting self settling.
Update: Im now back at work - which is great for me but maybe not so much for DS. He's doing well though, it's only been 3 weeks. His grandparents look after him for 1 day and he's at a CM the other day.
He is still waking a lot during the night. On average probably 5 times. He is not an independent sleeper. He loves to suck on my fingers! BT is bottle, cuddle until asleep and then into cot.
Naps - 9.30ish - 11.30am (sometimes longer!)
3ish - 3.45pm
BT 6.30/7 - usually wakes 7.30, 9, 10, 12, 2 maybe 4ish and then up at 6
He starts off in his cot but out of pure desperation to sleep he ends up next to me. He needs settling with either cuddles, milk or sucks on my finger.
When he's with his grandparents - currently staying with him at our house until he's more used to them looking after him - he naps as he usually would with me. At the CM's he does around an hour in the morning and then 1.5 hours in the afternoon. The problem is is he's not eating much during the day so is starving at night!
He's been ill on and off for a couple of months with the usual colds etc. he's now cutting his first tooth - finally!
I've let things get out of hand really. I need to get on top of his sleeping!
My question is - how do I stop him sucking my fingers for comfort? Do I go cold turkey? I guess I need to try him with his thumb again and only get him to suck that not my fingers?
Do I start with that and then work on helping him to self settle with him sucking his thumb? He completely refuses a dummy. Sorry if this post is all over the place - Im trying to give you all the info but it might just sound like me rambling!