Thank you so much for getting back to me echohush... I really appreciate the advice. I'm really finding things hard at the moment.
Yes, I also think he is overtired. I try to take him upstairs to the bedroom as soon as he starts his little cues. I close the blinds, change his nappy, sing gentle lullabies and talk in a voice that makes me sound like I'm high or something! We do this for about 20 minutes to half an hour depending on how tired he is. Then I pop him in his crib and start shh patting. He starts to get distressed about 2 minutes into this and cries for around 15 minutes before falling asleep - on a good day - on a bad day he can cry for over an hour which is when I resort to PUPD. I know this must be a bit much for him but I want to cuddle him to calm him down and let him know I'm there to help, but when he starts to fall asleep in my arms, I put him down again because I don't want him to become reliant on my cuddles again.
We started BW and EASY 2 weeks ago because he goes into childcare in 6 weeks time and I don't want him to be upset when he doesn't have my cuddles to help him sleep. I know this is all my fault, and I feel so guilty for making this all hard for him, but he's my last baby and I just wanted to soak up as much Mummy/Son time as I could before I had to go back to work. I now know that my accidental parenting has actually made things worse
Anyway, I try to pop him down for a nap in his crib whenever possible, but 4 out of 5 weekdays I have to do the school run for my daughter, so he sleeps in his car seat for the 8:30 and the 2:30 nap 4 days a week. This is why his afternoon nap is so close to his 2pm feed. Do you think I need to change his EASY so that he has an opportunity for A time before his nap? Our feed times have kind of fallen into place as the house is up at 6am and he's usually hungry so the 4 hour feeds follow on from there.
I think the problem is that once we get back from the school run, which is about a 40 min round trip, he wakes as he's no longer in the car. I try to soothe him back off to sleep but he'll have none of it. So he's only getting about 30mins from his school run naps. He sleeps better when in his crib but I do have to resettle him a couple of times.
Oh I'm at my wits end!
I just wish I could stay home and focus on making sure he gets enough sleep but the school runs throw everything! I was thinking maybe changing the routine so that the school run falls into an A time but he always drifts off in the car so it can cause more problems!
How do I keep him asleep after returning from a car journey? Should I change the routine?