hello everyone!
I am a tired (physically and emotionally) mum to a touchy 3mo boy. Since he turned 2 mo he started having short naps of 20-30 min on top of eating every two hrs. So I started doing EASY routine, which helped with the eating - now it is every 3hrs and sometimes I feel he can go longer. He was on 3 hr routine - almost by the book, except for his short naps. Last week there were some improvements even - he was taking 30 or 40 min naps by himself and after I was trying to extend them and normally succeeded by either holding him or wearing him in a sling. The last couple of days have been a disaster! He fights at the beginning of each nap, unless he is OT, then it is a bit easier to put him to sleep, he sleeps for 20 min by himself in his crib and then wakes up and just keeps kicking and thrashing (even though he is tired - he is yawning like crazy) resisting my attempts to put him to sleep. Which means the whole schedule is totally messed up.
Today, for example, was like this:
6:45 wake up
7:00 feed
7:50 stared shsh pat to put him to sleep to avoid him being OT
8:10 sleep
8:50 woke up and nothing I did made him fall sleep (even though he was clearly tired)
9:50 eat
10:50 fell asleep, I started shsh pat but he was resisting and after about 20 or 30 min I totally freaked out and just left the room

he fell asleep by himself
11:00 woke up but this time shsh pat worked and he fell asleep
11:20 woke up and I took him in my arms and he slept quite long
13:20 woke up (I moved from my arms to his crib 20 min earlier)
13:30 eat
14:30 put him in a sling
14:40 he fell asleep
16:00 I woke him up
16:10 eat
17:00 started putting him to sleep but he just refused. Now it is 17:52, I am now feeding him. Then the bath.
For the night sleep he is also not so easy to fall ssleep but once he falls asleep (normally it is between 19:30 and 20:00) he will wake up several times till 21:00-21:30 and then I give him another cluster feed and if he wakes up more it is easy to shsh him back to sleep.
In terms of DF I very seldom succeed to give it to him, h is in such deep sleep.
Then at night he wakes up 2 or 3 times to eat. If there was DF it is 1 and 4, if no DF can be the same or can be 12 and 3 and 5.
Am I doing something wrong?

Why suddenly the fighting of naps? Any ideas and advice is welcome!!! Because today I was just totally loosing my temper, which makes me feel like a terrible mother and person. It is just that I am so tired of the nap issues! I feel like my whole days I do nothing but trying to get him to eat ( he is a fussy eater) and to fall asleep and then trying to keep him sleeping...
Thank you in advance!
P.s. Now he is tired and tries to sleep on the breast, feel so cruel to keep him awake...
Lara