Thanks for the responses! It's great to know that (hopefully) this is just yet another phase she is going through and will snap out of.
Weaver, here is our routine:
7am - wakeup; breakfast; daycare drop off
930am - snack
11:15ish - lunch time
12pm - nap time
1:30pm - wakeup (occasionally she'll pull a 2 - 2.5 hr nap, but 1.5hr is much more typical).
2ish - snack
5pm - dinner
6:40pm - start bedtime routine (diaper, pajamas, stories, songs, sleep). If it's a bath night, it usually happens around 6ish or so.
I should mention that bedtime, she ALWAYS falls asleep on her own and has done for over a year now. She gets a couple stories, and 2 songs. She can have the first song rocking in the chair if she wants, or both lying in the crib. The second song is always in the crib as I tuck her in, snuggles with stuffy, and then I say goodnight, love you and walk out the door. She used to go to sleep without a peep but the last couple weeks she has been testing me I think. She cries 'mommy' for a minute or two and then she's quiet and goes to sleep. Some nights she babbles and plays, typically asleep by 7:15-7:30.
At nap time we do a similar routine, stories & songs. But she always used to fall asleep during the song stage so she has never really learned to fall asleep on her own at nap time. Now that she doesn't fall asleep and goofs around, I feel like this is partially where the problem is!
We try very hard to stick to the daycare schedule at home on the weekends as they are very structured at the center. We try to give naps at the same time (12pm) and keep everything else as consistent as possible as to not confuse her. Do you think we should be doing a later nap time even if daycare always has her asleep between 11:45-12:15?
Weaver, thanks for your story about your LO. As frustrating as it is, it's nice to know I'm not alone and it is a normal part of being a mom to a toddler. I'm hoping we follow suit and that it's a phase she snaps out of but it is very frustrating!
Thanks for your input - if you see anything we should tweak or have suggestions on this, much appreciated!