I'd worry about putting her in her own room but would you hear her cry if you wore ear plugs whilst she is in your room?
I'd use a monitor. I think this is what we'll do tonight. I agree with Jill, I think we might be disturbing her too just with general tossing and turning and breathing! And she's an independent sleeper and totally able to resettle herself, so if I'm not there listening to every movement and feeling like I need to get her back to sleep I have to assume she'd do it herself eventually and I don't need to know, or yell if she's really hungry or needs something.
Could she be low sleep needs do you think?
I honestly don't know. Personality-wise she is angel/textbook, but sleep-wise she is a mystery! She's generally happy regardless, and doesn't show any sleep cues until we're in a dark room with white noise and then she's all yawns. So I'm guessing on A time, she doesn't give much away. She's tended towards short naps and long nights, and then for a little while both were good. The decent naps didn't immediately affect nights though, so I'm not sure that she's getting too much sleep making her nights wonky.
If she is still going to bed at 6.30pm then i would consider posing that BT much later so that even if she wakes after 10hrs it isn't he middle of the night. 8pm to 6am seems much more reasonable than 6.30 to 4.30 doesn't it?
Yes! It does. 6:30 is where BT tends to fall, but I have tried later too. She's made it to a 7:30 BT before but got the same WU so I'd rather get that extra sleep at the beginning of the night. I haven't tried a later BT more than a one-off though so it could be worth pushing.
When do your clocks go forward? It's this weekend here but i think USA do it later IIRC.
Arizona doesn't change, it's the same all year round.
Is the sun or environmental noise waking her?
Nope, we use white noise and the sun comes up around 6:15 by which time she is already awake.
Could she be ready to drop the CN?
We have done a couple of 2 nap days but those were when she did long nights and we got a late wake up. The way her nights are now I have to do 3 naps.
I would vote for starting to stretch the A times out... 2 hrs is about average at 16 weeks so it may be time for an increase and move towards shortening and the dropping the CN.
She did some longer A times today, and I think you're right this is what we should be aiming for. As above though, she needs the CN to get to a decent BT after an early start.
Today went like this:
WU 5:50
Nap 1 8:10 -9:40
Nap 2 12:00 -2:15 (she woke really upset after 30mins and did the rest of the nap in the carrier on me)
CN 4:30-4:55
BT 6:30
Does that seem ok? She was pretty happy all day despite the broken night, except for the second nap which I guess was OT. This doesn't seem like too much sleep to me that it would cause UT NWs, and was a little more A time than she usually gets, so I'm really hoping for a better night.