I'm not sure if I'm posting in the right place, but I think I need some help with the 3-2 nap transition. If it needs to be moved back to the Naps board, then that is fine. I posted on the Naps board already and someone suggested to post on the 3-2 transition board to see if I can get some more help.
Here is a little overview: My LO is a little over 5.5mo, exclusively BF, doesn't take a pacifier, and uses a swaddle. I started using shh/pat a little before 4m to teach him to sleep independently. I would say we have made a lot of progress because for most naps, I now just lay him down and keep one hand on his chest until he starts to drift off and then I take it off and leave the room. For the most part, he is asleep within 5 minutes for naps (he has started to refuse and/or take a long time to settle for CN for about 3 weeks now, so I'm having to do some PUPD and holding him longer than I would like in order to calm him). He has pretty much always taken a good morning nap (about 1.20 - 2hr but most days its closer to 2hr. I always wake him at 2hr if he is still asleep). The second nap was usually short (30-45min). With the help from some ladies on another board, I pushed his A time some after the good morning nap and I'm finally started seeing longer naps (closer to 1.30hr). However, once he started taking 2 pretty good naps, the CN is now really nearly impossible. It's hard for me to APOP the CN because I also have a 2.5yo so it makes it hard for him to fall asleep with his loud brother around
He has always been harder to get to sleep for BT. Right now it is a real battle! It usually takes at least 30 min and sometimes longer than an hour to go to sleep. I have never let him fall asleep nursing for BT but I'm starting to nurse him more just so he will go to sleep because I know at that point he is very OT. It drives me crazy because he can fall asleep for naps easily and without BF, so I wasn't sure why it was so hard for BT. About 2 weeks ago, he just all of a sudden started falling asleep at BT like he would for naps. He also started having less NWs, and he even STTN once and had a couple of nights with an 8hr stretch. Well that didn't last, and I'm trying to figure out what went wrong. It seemed like when he was doing one good nap and two short naps, he would fall asleep easily at BT and only wake once at night to BF. Now that I am getting two pretty good naps, I can't really get him to take a CN so I try for EBT but it's hard because DH isn't home from work yet and I need help keeping DS1 occupied while trying to get DS2 to bed. Therefore he usually ends up OT by the time I can get him to bed. And if I do get him to take a CN, it is after at least 20min of trying and then it really pushes our day back. I'm then not sure how long to keep him awake before trying for BT. It seems like there is not enough hours in the day to fit it in. It seems like he is getting close to the 3-2 transition, but he cannot stay awake long enough to only have 2 naps. His first A time is still at 2.10hr. His second A time is at 2.30hr. Then if he takes a good nap the second time I can't seem to get him to take a CN any earlier than the 2.30hr A time. Therefore, the day gets really long. I really haven't gotten him to take a CN if his two naps are both at least 1.30.
I need help straightening out these naps and times so that hopefully he can start settling easier at BT. It sure was nice the other week when he STTN and had some long stretches of sleep, so I would love to figure out how to get him to do that again!! Before now, he had been eating only once in the middle of the night for the past month. Now I feel like I'm having to nurse him more. It might just be me taking the easier way out because I'm so tired. Can someone take a look at the last two days and see what you think? Are we ready to try for 2 naps? If so, how would I make it to a decent BT? Adjust any A times or the length of his naps?
S: 9:22-10:46 (A time before this nap was 2hr 7min; Slept 1hr 24min) This was shorter than normal for some reason.
S: 1:13-2:40 (A time before this nap was 2hr 27min; Slept 1hr 27min)
S: I tried at 5:05 (A time was 2hr 25min) but he would not go to sleep. I gave up at 5:20 since he showed no signs of going to sleep.
A: Low key activity until DH got home from work so I could get him to bed
E: 6:20-6:50; He wouldn't settle so I BF again around 7:30
*He only woke at 10:40 so I went ahead and BF again and he slept until 6:45
S: 8:53-10:53 (A time before this nap was 2hr 8min; I woke him at 2hr)
S: 1:20-2:20 (A time before this nap was 2hr 27min; I actually woke him at 1hr thinking he would be able to take the CN but I was wrong)
S: Tried for CN at 4:55 (pushed A time to 2hr 35min) but he wouldn't settle. I gave up at 5:15
A: Low key activity
S: Went right to sleep at 6:30
*He woke right back up at 7 and cried for well over an hour. DH tried settling him but didn't work, so I fed again at 8:15 and he went to sleep around 8:40. Got up again at 10:30 so I fed again and then he slept until 6:30.
Thank you so much for any help you can give me! It's getting pretty hard around our house at BT with the 2.5yo and the baby crying! I appreciate your help and support