A big thank you to all you clever ladies as things are much improved. We were delayed in starting the new bedtime routine due to illness but are getting along with it well now. My dd now has some milk downstairs then goes upstairs brushes teeth, pjs, sleeping bag etc, I read the same story twice (whilst she is sat on my lap) and then I say goodnight to her and her teddy and lay her down in her bed. She now goes straight to sleep without any complaining :-)
The 6am waking seems to have gone and now she wakes happily chatting sometime after 7.20am which is great. (today it was 8.15am!)
One thing that I'm not sure about is why she is still waking at 4am. I've stopped giving her milk over night and now offer her some water. She drinks it all and is grumbling less and less after it (as what she really wants is milk) so she is getting more used to the water. I'll see what happens tonight but am just wondering why she is still waking for the water? Any advice? Maybe it's not been long enough for her to realise that she's not going to get any milk and is still asking!
She's done so, so well in adapting to the new regime and it's still early days with it ..thanks again!