Hi
I am writing to ask for some advice which is all I think I am doing at the moment.
5-6 weeks ago we had a daughter who 95% of the time enjoyed bathtime and went to sleep on her own after a story and bottle and slept 12 hours 7_7am+
Since then we have had a period of chicken pox which really disrupted things for two weeks and probably age related but extremely clingy to me
We made a decision to finally knock the bottle of milk on the head two weeks ago and she was upset about that for 3 nights but doesn't ask for it now.
However we are now in a situation where everything just seems a battle and it is taking up to 1.5hours for her to settle once in her cot.
Her routine has,always been bath, story on my knee in her bedroom and then into cot.
She now resists going upstairs to bath. If we can get her into the bath without tears it is nice. She does enjoy bath but then sometimes she refuses to get out, which then if we lift her out results in hysterics which then doesn't set us up well for the,rest of bedtime. She sometimes let's us brush her teeth other times she fights it.
Into bedroom, pjs on (regardless of crying!!) More often is fine for this.
Then I sit in the chair and she will sit on my knee for a,story. Sometimes we don't even get through 2 pages and then she climbs off. Sometimes tries to climb in cot other times messes about in room.
I would love to read her a whole story and have a nice relaxed time.
Once in cot I switch light off say I love you night night and then since the pox am in a,situation where I sit on the chair and hold her hand.
Then she will either lie there but restless or mess about, under duvet sitting up and down, asking for milk, food saying she wants a wee wee (which I do get potty for) really just constant procrastination.
I tell her mummy only sitting if Eliza is going to sleep so I leave the room. She usually after a few mins shouts,for me and is lying down but wants,my hand again.
So she is not going to sleep until 8pm or later.
It is,even worse for DH the evenings I go to the gym, she will fight him, run and hide and basically be hysterical until I get home, often 8.30pm!
The nights,I am away for work she knows I am not there at,all so she normally settles for him by 8.30pm
We are at the end of our tether, we just don't get any evening at all.
We,have been nap capping but to be honest whether she has 30 mins or 1.5 hrs it doesn't make any difference.
She is waking now nearer 6am, and has circles under her eyes
Her typical day now is
WU- 6am-6.30am
Nap 12.45am-2pm.(doesn't resist going for a nap at all)
Supper and cartoon 10 mins :6pm
Quiet play/story
6.20pm up to bathroom
6.40 out of bath, teeth, into bedroom dressed
Story-ideally.
7pm into cot
Messing around/sleep resistance
8pm ish falls,asleep holding hand
I really don't want her going to sleep like this every night, I have even tried to read her a 'special' story when in the cot and that doesn't help.
Sorry for the lengthy post.
Advice appreciated