That's basically the approach we have always had, and I have to say it does mean that we have very very little mealtime drama. They will all try most things (eventually!) and we eat family dinners rather than kid food. My friends are all constantly amazed when I let them get down having not eaten anything if they don't want to, but I figure that they can decide for themselves (if they are hungry later they can have fruit or go hungry - and the next time they tend to remember that they were hungry!) and I have better things to waste my emotional energy on than whether they ate 3 pieces of carrot or 4.