Dear god I need help! My 13 week old is my second LO and I am at my wits end. I've been crying for the past two days and feel resentment starting to kick in. I did EASY with my 23month old, and although we had a big of a bumpy start (started her at 5 months), it eventually worked like a dream.
Not this kid. I've been following EASY for over 2 months now and naps just aren't working.
My almost 3 month old is in the 95th percentile/big girl and weight gain/milk supply is not an issue. She has had some long naps 1:30-2:00 long, but that was through growth spurts.
I can't keep this kid awake. I I follow her sleep cues, I would have to start her WD after 45 minutes. She is almost 3 months and we are nowhere near the average A times. On average, her awake time is 55 minutes. She then wakes anywhere from 40-55 minutes. I have tried extending AW times, and then I get 35 minute overtired naps. I'm at a loss and am stressing out because in about a month we are supposed to be transitioning to a 4 hour EASY and I have no idea how that is going to happen when she can't stay awake long enough or sleep long enough.
Some questions:
If I try to extend her AW time again, how do I do this? Push by 15 minutes? That's what I was doing and it didn't work. Or should I move it straight to 1.5 hours and help her through the OT? She's getting OT no matter what I do.
I have also tried WAke to sleep, but that doesn't seem to work either. If she's waking up at 40 minutes, when do I start? 30 minutes seems too late, but at 20 minutes, she's just barely fallen asleep!
Things to note -- she is EBF, sleeps well(ish) at night and falls asleep awake for the first nap and at bedtime. All other naps I have to shh/pat.
Typical day:
E: 7(give or take 30 minutes either way)
A:7:20-7:50 (as soon as I start to WD she gets fussy and goes to sleep shortly thereafter)
S: 8:00
A:8:40-9:30
S:9:30-10 (showing sleep cues so she sometimes goes back down for a short nap in her crib, otherwise it's the baby carrier or stroller)
E:10:15
A:10:35
S:11:00 (now she's OT)
A:11:40 (low key or try stroller/carrier)
E:1:00
A:1:20 - nothing fancy
S:2:00 ( AW time getting shorter and shorter as the day goes on...much harder to settle)
A:2:35 (OT...attemp nap extension...fails 95% of the time)
S:3:15 (almost always in carrier. At this point, my back is broke as she won't let me sit down)
E:4:00
A: 4:20
S:4:50 (screaming OT). Refuses catnap in her crib...just screams the entire time. Back to the carrier
A:5:30
E: 6:00
Please help. I need advice. I will try anything. Although my parents are helping with my 23 month old, I feel she is getting no attention from her me because I'm constantly dealing with naps. It's not fair to her.
A:6:20 bath time/bedtime routine
S: always asleep by or before 7PM (rarely have a problem at bedtime unless extremely OT)
Dream feed at 10:30...but she still wakes up at 2:30, so I don't think its working for her. I give her a paci to see if she's really hungry. She will usually go back to sleep for another hour, then wake up hungry.
Awake again between 6:30/7:00am