11 month old crawling in her Crib

[lauraims]

Hi there!! My 11 month old just learnt to crawl last week and now naps and bed time have become a battle!! She's soooo tired but keeps getting up and crawling and pulling herself up in her crib. I'm having to keep lying her back down and sometimes resort in holding her sack tightly to the bed so she can't move. As soon as I do this she relaxes and goes to sleep. She's getting so OT!!
Any ideas on how to address this issue? I'm hoping it's just a phase!??

[anna*]

It's just a phase! Honestly. Every major milestone will disturb sleep, all you can really do is ride it out - it will pass!

[Kellyjs]

Agreeing with Anna. We had this too. It does help if they can get back down themselves, can she do this yet?

If not, one thing I did was play endless ring, ring roses with DD holding her hands and helping her down at the 'all fall down' part. Then, although she was still messing around up there, she didn't get upset about not being able to get back down.

It does get better sweetie, well, until the next thing    x

[lauraims]

When will it pass ?!!??!!! 😩😩I am soooo physically and emotionally drained from this. I've tried so many things. Laying her back down each time she sits up. She gets hysterical. Leaving her. She'll sit up and stand up and cry, then her overtired and once I lie her down and restrain her from moving she'll only sleep 30 mins from being overtired. Night times are getting bad now because of the lack of day sleep. Up 2-4 times a night 😩 she was doing a 1.5hr am nap after 3hrs40mins awake time and a 45-1hr afternoon nap after 3.45-4hrs awake time. Until she started crawling 😞 bedtime isn't so much of a battle as she is so tired from the lack of day sleep.
Please if you have any advice at all. I'm at a loss of what to do. She's been self settling perfectly since 3 months old. And sleeping through 12hrs most nights expect when teething. Now because of the nightwakings she's only getting 10-10.5 hrs at night and Max 2hrs during the day.

[Kellyjs]

It may be a routine tweak might be in order hun? You're obviously in the way to the 2-1 with that routine. How long has she been on it? How's that first nap now, you mentioned your old routine but said it's all going wrong?

Mind posting the last couple of days for me to take a look at? Also, I would expect a ww is coming into play there too with bday developmental shenanigans x

[lauraims]

Hey hun. Thanks for the reply. We've been away for the weekend so that didn't help the situation!! I'
Last week before we went away.
She's up between 6-6.30
I was doing 3.30 until she started doing 1.15min naps.
So at 3.45 she'd do 1.5-1.75 first nap. Then afternoon nAp is never consistant at 40-1.15. Usually on the shorter side. After 3.45-4hrs A. Sorry I don't have easy format. A
This routine for about a month. Before that we were trying UT first nap of 1hr and longer second nap, that worked for about a week until I couldn't seem to get a decent afternoon NAp out of her. So decided to push from 3-3.20 first A to 3.30 and now 3.45 first A. She's been on two naps since 6 months.
Ohhhh we've just finished a ww about two weeks ago. It's just the moving around thing. As soon as I hold her down from moving around she starts to relax and close her eyes...?

[Kellyjs]

Ok, definitely time for a push in A time then hun I'm thinking. I too couldn't get the A time right for a longer pm nap, so happy to help you along the 2-1 if you'd like?

They are slightly low A times for an 11mo especially considering she's been on 2 naps since 6mo. What time is BT if I may ask?

You've done absolutely the right thing in extending her A times, I just think it might be time for a little more. Ok, if you have a read of the link I'll post in a minute too and you let me know what time you'd ideally like BT boot be at, we can start moving forwards x

From 2 to 1 nap transition (10-12m and older)

[lauraims]

Thanks hun! I've had a thread on the naps board but that was a few months ago now.
Bedtime is also at 6/6.30. Last night she was asleep at 5.30 because her naps were so horrible. She's definitely OT at the moment. Especially from our trip away. We had 3 OT cry outs before midnight last night. Then a wake up at 4.30 and then up for day at 6.15.
Yes I think a push too. Except it's so hard to do when she's OT!!
Would you suggest jumping to 4hrs first A?
So a nap between 10/10.30?
Bedtime at 6.30 would be ideal.

[lauraims]

Forgot to mention she is full on teething right now. Top two teeth have started splitting the gum. Definitely think it's a routine issue too though

[Mariellamom]

Hi, just popping in to encourage you. We've been through exactly the same thing. Sometimes our pre nap/bed time would last up to 2hrs. It was way too frustrating!  I had to leace her once or twice crying as I was just exhausted. DH helped a lot in that crazy period by putting her down for BT. His hand is harder and she couldn't move much. But yes, I was holding her putting my hand on her back until she was asleep. Later she figured out how to 'crawl out' from under my arm though
Also since 8 months DD started showing signs of 2/1 and clearly was exhausted by the nap time ( 5hrs A time from 8 months for us
Sometimes I just breastfed her to sleep when that crazy period was just way hard. But it doesn't work now as she is just too active anyways
We still have some of those days when she is up and down in her crib and sometimes I leave her, she will make two screams and goes to sleep on her own.
So just wanted to say it does get better !!!!

[Kellyjs]

Thanks for popping by Ohla, it's always so helpful to the OP when they hear others have been through the same.

It might be difficult to expect 12hrs ONS later on in the transiiton hun, just so you know. A 13hr day will be more than likely, which might push BT closer to 7.15/30 eventually until she's ready for one nap.

Teething can really have an impact. We'll just see how she goes. Normally we wouldn't recommend doing a routine tweak whilst teething but the routine was a bit off beforehand really.

So let's try and work to this for a while and see if she settles into it:

Wu 6/6.30
A 4
Nap 1 10/10.30 for 1.5hrs capped
A 3.75
Nap 2 3.15/3.45 for 45mims capped
A 2.5
BT 6.30/6.45

As you can see the last A to BT is short. This may help with the OT too, but I'd expect that to lengthen slightly as well. If we get BT shenanigans after a couple of days, we'll look at lengthening it or chopping some more off that pm nap. Wdyt? A plan? Xx

[lauraims]

Thanks Ohla!! Feels like I'm the only one going through it at the moment so nice to hear it gets better! How many weeks did this go on for you ?
Everyone's like, just leave her in there she'll eventually go to sleep. Tried thAt. She sat in there playing, whinging, for over an hour and got very very OT!! I feel like I have a newborn agAin having to resort to helping her get to sleep!! Haven't hsd to do this for almost 9 months 😩😩 my back is killing me.

Cool thanks Kelly. Will give that routine a go. Yesterday she managed 3.50 first AT, slept 1.10..she went to sit up, I quietly laid her back down and she slept another 25mins. Afternoon was horrible. Put her down at 3.40...fell asleep at 4hrs, me holding her sack to the bed so she'd actually lie down and relax I might add (😣) then got woken by the neighbours after being asleep for only 10 mins. Took another 45mins to resettle then she slept 1hr20 mins. Was up 1 hour had tea, bath then asleep for night by 7... Woke at 10, then two more times in the early hours. Up for day at 6.30...

Today she only slept 30 mins after 4hrs first WT.. So I thought ok, you're so tired, put her down for second nap at 3hrs WT.. Battled until 4hrs WT.. Has just gone to sleep now. Argh such a mess😞 she's now got a cold too.
Do you think getting the A times right will help getting her down for naps ? The morning ones easy, she doesn't really fight it for long. The afternoon one is such a battle. Bedtime is fine at the moment. Only because she's so OT at the moment though.

[lauraims]

Slept 35 mins.. Been trying to resettle her for an hour. She's sooooo tired. Keeps almost drifting off then fights it. What's going on ? This is the worst she's ever been 😞

[deb]

Might be a bit OT by then....tweaking the A time might help. Can you give pain meds 20 min before naptime in case it's the teething keeping her from settling fully?

[Kellyjs]

ITA with deb, perhaps some OT has set in with all this teething? How's the rest of today gone hun? X