if he cried loudly, I will gave him a cuddle , he became calm then put him down, then left or lied down on floor to observe him, I pretended to close the door to let him know i left, cheat him
. But I think most of time,he didn't cry, so I did nothing, because I hope he can fall asleep himself , he needn't me ,if I touch him , maybe disturb him. unfortunately it always took long time he was asleep again. I had thought maybe he was unwell, but doctor said he is healthy, and he looks good in day, happy, play independent well. so I think is routine problem, his sleep cues was Not obviously since he was four month. he did three Cn in day for months, everyone think he is energetic. he became an independent sleeper at 6 month because rocking him to sleep was too hard, it always took 20mins and he only sleept 30mins, 45mins max, he even began refuse the moring catnap. his naps became longer suddenly at the first day he became independent sleeper, but early EW appeared several days later, now I know he got too many day sleep at that time.
I had thought if baby not tired enough , he will not sleep. but it seems like he will sleep whether UT or OT, but wrack his night then. just like let him became an independent sleeper is a mistake
I stay outside the door or lie down on floor, to wait him be asleep again, I am sure he didn't know I was in his room for some nights,someone including DH told me if he didn't cry, just leave him alone. but I know he was awake , I am worry about he cann't get sleep he need, which may effect his healthy,and always don't know when put him down next day, sometimes I am jealous mums whose baby have obvious sleep cues, they
just follow cues, even more day sleep with short nights, or mums like you ladies could figure it out ,
. cann't imagine NW lasted so long, don't know when will be the end.
For his total sleep, I am not sure now, months ago it was about 13h~13.15, but maybe he changed now.