I really need some help with DS3!
I don't know where to begin!
He wakes all night long every 2hrs or so. He's not always hungry, I can settle him fairly easily most of the time, except after he's been in bed for 10.5hrs then it's much harder.
I am tied to a double school run for my other two boys, with drop offs in the morning (a 1hr trip around 9) and pickup DS2 at lunchtime and DS1 at 3pm.
I'm so tired! I haven't slept more than 4hrs in a row for 7 months straight. I have all the signs of chronic sleep deprivation.
DH does not help me. We are at odds with which technique to use (even though I have been trying to BW all of them since birth). He thinks CIO is the way, so naturally I've been reluctant to let him take over! He thinks I've set up the situation so just let's me deal with it. We've argued about it - can you tell?
I know I probably have become a prop. When DS3 wakes, he kicks down his heels arches his back and then wriggles up the mattress until he's out of his blankets and swaddle, and then proceeds to roll around grabbing stuff and banging himself on the bars until he eventually gets stuck or starts to cry. I try to leave him to see if he will settle, but this can go on for ages if I let it. I always go to him if he gets tangled or upset.
At night when he wakes I just pick him up, give him a cuddle, tuck any hands in if they seem to be causing trouble and then put him down once I feel he is relaxed (but not fully asleep) then I tuck him in and usually he goes back to sleep well enough. But every 2hrs or so that's a bit tiresome!
On a school day our routine is:
WU anytime between 5:30 - 7:15am.
BF or not depending on when he last fed at night and if I have time or not.
8:30am in car for school run.
9:20am home again he may or may not have fallen asleep by this stage.
If not, get him inside and to bed. BF him to sleep, especially if he didn't have any breakfast.
9:30am Nap
11:30ish WU (sometimes later)
12:15 back in car to get DS2
12:45-1pm home again
1pm lunch
1:30 BF to sleep
2:40 get him out of bed and back in the car to go get DS1
3:15 home again - playtime
4:30 to 5ish BF and try to get him down for another CN while I make dinner
5:45 WU join dinnertime
8pm BF and BT where I juggle getting all 3 boys into bed as best I can. DS3 often can't settle down while the other two are aping around in the hallway. So sometimes he doesn't get to sleep till 8:30.
Sorry if that's unclear! It's the best I can do right now tired as I am...
I'm not sure if there is much I can do about his routine, stuck as I am with all the driving.
I know I shouldn't be feeding him to sleep, and I know that won't be helping his inability to self settle. But on those days when even our crappy routine is off, (and in the past) he has been able to go to sleep by himself without F2S. Before he started rolling we had a nice period (around 4-5months) when he was going off all by himself every time. No problems.
Sorry if I'm rambling! So tired and feeling lost with what to do.
One good thing is that I now have the opportunity to move him into his own room. Should I do it? Might he sleep better with less disturbances from us (DH snoring lol) or is that just going to unsettle him more, and be more of a pain for me having to go up and down the cold hallway all night?
Ideas or just hugs gratefully received!